Are people in your life extremely unsupportive during your hard times?

seesaw · Jun 21, 2021 at 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by eskielover

Behavior unacceptable to the workplace, not doing your job for the time you are paid for. I am sure the list could be easily added to if they really wanted to

I am fairly certain Ruby was fired from Arby's for stalking her supervisor - or stalking behavior.

Jun 21, 2021 at 02:30 PM

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Originally Posted by seesaw

I am fairly certain Ruby was fired from Arby's for stalking her supervisor - or stalking behavior.

Correct. I’m constantly misunderstood

Nammu · Jun 21, 2021 at 02:52 PM

You were not misunderstood you were stalking your supervisor and you were warned repeatedly and you persisted and had a legal op against you. Stop trying to manipulate the truth to get sympathy. What you are doing is completely inappropriate and you know it and are aware of it, but you continue the same behavior and expect sympathy.

Jun 21, 2021 at 03:04 PM

I only meant that my good intentions are not matching up with how I actually come across

leomama · Jun 21, 2021 at 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Nammu

You were not misunderstood you were stalking your supervisor and you were warned repeatedly and you persisted and had a legal op against you. Stop trying to manipulate the truth to get sympathy. What you are doing is completely inappropriate and you know it and are aware of it, but you continue the same behavior and expect sympathy.

I’m surprised my support forums hasn’t put any restrictions on her postings . They’re pretty generous with her.

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eskielover · Jun 21, 2021 at 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by seesaw

I am fairly certain Ruby was fired from Arby's for stalking her supervisor - or stalking behavior.

Yes.....I remember that & she just couldn't understand why

eskielover · Jun 21, 2021 at 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by ruby2011

I only meant that my good intentions are not matching up with how I actually come across

Your "good intentions" are inappropriate behaviors, not JUST how you come across. It is this kind of totally inappropriate social behaviors that do tend to indicate that your diagnosis of ASD was very accurate. When people are forced to tolerate your inappropriate behaviors in the work place where they just want to do their job they DON'T LIKE IT & that is when they don't want to have anything more to do with you. People avoid people who behave inappropriately when it ends up touching their lives personally. No one cares about your "good intentions" because the only thing that matters is how inappropriate you act. Until you can learn better social skills & workplace appropriate behavior, these issues will follow you everywhere you go. So STOP blaming the other people & take responsibility for your own behavior

unaluna · Jun 21, 2021 at 04:58 PM

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Originally Posted by leomama

I’m surprised my support forums hasn’t put any restrictions on her postings . They’re pretty generous with her.

Im not seeing anything against guidelines? She is just frankly discussing w9hat happened. her actions, her intentions, the results, and her feelings. I should be so honest and articulate!

Alive99 · Jun 21, 2021 at 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Im not seeing anything against guidelines? She is just frankly discussing w9hat happened. her actions, her intentions, the results, and her feelings. I should be so honest and articulate!

I know I said I wasn't gonna respond anymore....but....

1. Yeah she's frank, too frank, makes her a target easily to hostility, impatience, intolerance. That's indeed an ASD trait.

2. She's too angry and entitled at the same time though maybe she's just venting strongly. Which fans the flames further.

3. Everyone here is frustrated because...? Is it that hard to handle that we are unable to help her?

Is it that hard to detach and let people be as long as they are not trying to actively harm us? Really?

All this hostility is not going to make OP learn anything faster.

Think about that, all of you.

*bows out of thread for real*

leomama · Jun 21, 2021 at 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Im not seeing anything against guidelines? She is just frankly discussing w9hat happened. her actions, her intentions, the results, and her feelings. I should be so honest and articulate!

Interesting. Even though members keeping telling her the same thing? Good for her.

unaluna · 11:42 PM

Some problems dont have solutions. We do the best we can.

Eta - like we cant go back in time and change things, no matter how much i want to!

Jun 21, 2021 at 08:38 PM

I’m definitely doing the best I can with what I got. Right now, at 32, I got an emotional maturity of a 10 year old (by my estimation). It’s hard to develop socially and emotionally when you’re constantly emotionally abused by the outside world. Or you’re constantly taking a hit emotionally every time some nice person, out of the blue, turns on you.

Just like a child wouldn’t physically grow and develop if they’re going hungry and getting beat up, people who been frequently emotionally traumatized don’t develop emotionally

divine1966 · Jun 21, 2021 at 09:27 PM

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Originally Posted by leomama

I’m surprised my support forums hasn’t put any restrictions on her postings . They’re pretty generous with her.

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Why? She is coming here for support/venting/sharing. There has to be a serious reason for posts be restricted.

divine1966 · Jun 21, 2021 at 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by leomama

Interesting. Even though members keeping telling her the same thing? Good for her.

I don’t think it’s against guidelines.

divine1966 · Jun 21, 2021 at 09:34 PM

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Originally Posted by ruby2011

I’m definitely doing the best I can with what I got. Right now, at 32, I got an emotional maturity of a 10 year old (by my estimation). It’s hard to develop socially and emotionally when you’re constantly emotionally abused by the outside world. Or you’re constantly taking a hit emotionally every time some nice person, out of the blue, turns on you.

Just like a child wouldn’t physically grow and develop if they’re going hungry and getting beat up, people who been frequently emotionally traumatized don’t develop emotionally

Lack of emotional maturity is caused by many factors ruby. Not just by abuse. Some of it is likely caused by a disorder. You must work with a professional and please tell them exactly what you tell us, all these situations. Maybe even show this thread. But you have to work with them consistently. Not just in crisis

leomama · Jun 21, 2021 at 09:38 PM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

Why? She is coming here for support/venting/sharing. There has to be a serious reason for posts be restricted.

Sometimes a forum determines that a poster needs to get real world help, obviously that’s not the case here. I thought there was something odd (or off) about ruby in chat. The forum seems to think it’s helpful for her to keep posting. I’m sorry if it seems like I’m being hostile, I’m not, I am trying to understand the situation.

leomama · Jun 21, 2021 at 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

I don’t think it’s against guidelines.

No probably not. If the forum determines its helpful for her to keep posting she will.
I see some other posters are getting very frustrated with her however.

divine1966 · Jun 21, 2021 at 09:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Alive99

I know I said I wasn't gonna respond anymore....but....

1. Yeah she's frank, too frank, makes her a target easily to hostility, impatience, intolerance. That's indeed an ASD trait.

2. She's too angry and entitled at the same time though maybe she's just venting strongly. Which fans the flames further.

3. Everyone here is frustrated because...? Is it that hard to handle that we are unable to help her?

Is it that hard to detach and let people be as long as they are not trying to actively harm us? Really?

All this hostility is not going to make OP learn anything faster.

Think about that, all of you.

*bows out of thread for real*

Who is “everyone” hostile and frustrated? If you see hostile posts report them to moderators, other than that I see no need to play forum police.

divine1966 · Jun 21, 2021 at 09:43 PM

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Originally Posted by leomama

No probably not. If the forum determines its helpful for her to keep posting she will.
I see some other posters are getting very frustrated with her however.

That’s on them if they are frustrated. It’s easy to skip threads that rub people the wrong way or are too upsetting. We all should exercise self care

Jun 22, 2021 at 07:18 AM

With just my disorder alone, my emotional maturity woulda been around 21 right now. That is absent the constant emotional trauma. Hence, I’m just 10 years old emotionally.

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Anonymous49235 Guest Posts: n/a	Jun 22, 2021 at 07:18 AM #60 With just my disorder alone, my emotional maturity woulda been around 21 right now. That is absent the constant emotional trauma. Hence, I’m just 10 years old emotionally.
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