Are people in your life extremely unsupportive during your hard times?

He most likely thinks it is wonderful because hopefully you will behave and leave him alone. He has no interest in you other than as a worker in the store. He cares as an employer. That's it. You are not on his agenda when he comes to the store. He doesn't want to have a conversation with you. Leave him alone.

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Originally Posted by ruby2011 I haven’t thought about him since my current GM talked to him on my behalf. I’m too busy working and sleeping all day on my days off work.

Hmmmm, then what is this all about?

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Hello adult babyhood! Now where do I find a caregiver?

When you write this crap, have you been drinking?

Drinking what? If it’s alcohol, then no. If it’s from the bottle, then not yet. I’m finding it difficult to get it into the baby lifestyle because my family REFUSES to support me on that. I’m stuck merely watching YouTube videos and envying all the adult babies in it.

I don’t even LIKE having to make this choice (of adult babyhood). My depression is just so overwhelming I don’t know how else to cope. When the Arby’s incident happened, I tried drinking and getting really wasted. It didn’t help so I stopped.

I’m doing my best with what I got. I’m calmer at work now and more clear headed. I actually enjoy doing my job now. But the hole in my heart…

Ruby adult baby is a kink and a fetish, so either post about it in the sex forum or go to fetlife or Usenet or somewhere like that.

Ruby you have to be an adult first before you can engage in an adult lifestyle. This wouldn’t be something your family would support you on. I don’t think you know what you’re talking about. A healthy sex life is part of a mature adult life , something you get to enjoy as part of being a responsible human being. Some of the things you say sound psychotic .

Ruby, you said you’ve been doing online or phone therapy. Have you shared with them your concerns?

To me, it’s non sexual because I adamantly don’t want to involve sex. If actual babies have no awareness of sex, then I’m completely disregarding sex

I had one appointment so far. My next one is Tuesday. I’m definitely having a lot to share then

Great! I hope you get some good insight

I worked night shift yesterday and I usually work day shift. A guy in a wheelchair came in and it became clear shortly after that he didn’t need a wheelchair. He speed walked to our counter asking for sauces and he speed walked to the restroom.

My coworkers talked among themselves that he’s not really disabled and that he seriously needs to go. After a few exchanges like that, I joined in saying he’s not affecting us so it’s really not our business. One of them asked me to repeat myself, so I did. Then they told me to go do something cuz they weren’t talking to me.

Wtf! People can be unpredictable. Those same people were friendly at the beginning of my shift. They allowed me to join in all their other conversation that day, before the one about the “disabled” man. So much for joining a normal conversation. Maybe they feel strongly about kicking him out.

When I was in school and a few classmates talked about how hard an exam was, I said the exam was super easy. I breezed through it. One of them went, “that’s nice.” And went on talking.

It’s a hit and miss joining a conversation. Sometimes they let me in, sometimes they don’t.

In this situation you flatly contradicted the speakers and painted yourself as a lot smarter than them.

That's risky from a social perspective.

I bet it would be worth figuring out when they let you in, and when they don't.

I bet it isn't "hit or miss".

Yes exactly!

I think that the reactions you are describing are predictable. If you just flatly contradict what others are saying, you are likely to get a negative reaction from them. If you present yourself as a lot smarter than they are, you are likely to get a negative reaction from them.

My husband is extremely supportive. My father and siblings not as much, but I can't say they are "extremely" unsupportive. Other people, also unsupportive.

Perhaps the most supportive to my husband and me (as a couple) is one of his sisters. Not so much for psych-related things, but in general. My husband has a couple friends that are similar.

My opinion on all this is that you can have conscious intent when chiming into convos. As to whether your goal is to fit in with the other people, or if it is to achieve something else, like stand up for/defend this other person, etc. If you are clear on your intent when engaging in a convo, that helps a lot with having your own agency and not having to rely on other people's goodwill all the time IMO.

Good point about intent re joining convos.