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Magnate
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Jun 20, 2021 at 04:55 AM
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I like this man as a friend. He is married but keeps saying we should be lovers. We text daily but he always brings up the subject we should be lovers. I am NOT attracted to him and told him so but he keeps harping on the same tune. So, should I let him go? I like his acquaintance but he is beginning to get on my nerves about his request that we be lovers. What do you think? Do you think he is just talking to me to become lovers? I am not a man so don't know how they think.
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Jun 20, 2021 at 05:14 AM
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Sever ties with him. And once his wife finds out he’s trying to hit on other women, she would also sever ties with him. He’s a POS.
I never hit on anyone who’s married nor do I let such person hit on me. Yet when I merely looked up to a married guy I work with, I was accused of having a thing for him and told he has a wife. That was while I was NEVER creepy. Imagine the reaction your friend would get when he is actually a creep. |
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Jun 20, 2021 at 05:52 AM
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Jun 20, 2021 at 08:09 AM
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Men usually mean what they say. Directly assertive, you know So yeah, if he mentions this so much then he wants this. Why are you even talking to him still? You can find other acquaintances, no? |
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Jun 20, 2021 at 10:07 AM
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Stay away from married men.
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Jun 20, 2021 at 01:06 PM
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If he continues to write, but he still brings up being lovers, then you also have your answer and, in my view, it is time to block him. |
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Magnate
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Jun 21, 2021 at 12:50 AM
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He and I talked and came to an understanding if that I don't bring it up, we should not talk about having sex anymore. So, thank you all for your replies!
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Jun 21, 2021 at 01:57 AM
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Bipolar forever? He’s married? Why are you talking to a married man who’s talking to you about sex? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Jun 22, 2021 at 06:33 AM
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Yes, I will drop him. He is all about himself. Thank you all.
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Jun 22, 2021 at 07:32 AM
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i agree with all the other wise and wonderful posters about either etting him know that you're bothered by this or cutting off contacts with him. It seems like you've already reached a conclusion although i am not sure if you're still remaining friends with him or not. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @bpforever1, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
    
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Jun 22, 2021 at 07:43 AM
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I imagine you met him on a dating site, as I read you are on them looking for companions. When he first revealed he was married, and he was coming on strong about sex, didn’t the little voice in your head alert you ‘This is a married man only interested in sex’?
At that moment, most women would brush the guy off and cut off communication. He had nothing more to offer you if you didn’t want a sexual relationship with a married man. I’m just wondering why you let the conversations go farther. Why were you trying to be friends with a married man only looking for sex? You were trying to get something that was not there to be had…friendship? IDK. I’m not saying this to criticize you, only for you to ponder why you continued talking to him until it became a problem for you. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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Grand Magnate
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Jun 22, 2021 at 02:25 PM
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Have someone here considered that maybe, he’s also giving her contradictory signals, too?
If you don’t feel comfortable with how he’s proceeding, cut off this communication. It doesn’t matter you don’t have friends, if you feel uncomfortable because someone is asking you once and again the same thing you already made clear that you don’t want. It’s not friend (oh my goodness, I‘m not being able to get what is in my tip of my tongue to say something in the way you guys, express it), ...ok, I think I got it, it’s not a friend matter. Nah! I think I screwed it up. What I mean is that friendship between him and you may doesn’t exist. Or it’s difficult. Noone is to be blamed. Only say goodbye to him and thanks for the time by. __________________ Social Anxiety and Depression. Cluster C traits. Trying to improve my English. My apologies for errors and mistakes in advance. Mankind is complex: Make deserts blossom and lakes die. ( GIL SCOTT-HERSON) |
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Jun 22, 2021 at 02:43 PM
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I don’t think he is giving contradictory signals. He is upfront about what he wants. He is a married man looking for sex and he directly asks for it, not contradictory at all. |
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Grand Magnate
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Jun 22, 2021 at 02:52 PM
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__________________ Social Anxiety and Depression. Cluster C traits. Trying to improve my English. My apologies for errors and mistakes in advance. Mankind is complex: Make deserts blossom and lakes die. ( GIL SCOTT-HERSON) |
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Jun 22, 2021 at 03:16 PM
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No, I am just going by what she told us on here. None of us are present in any conversations that people discuss on here so we have to believe in what they post to be the truth, it’s not appropriate for us to question validity of people’s posts. If this man wants to post his own version of events, he’d have to start his own thread. Until then I believe in what bpforever posted. He asks for sex, her answer is no. It’s very wise of her to say no and she is now planning to cut him off. Wise move. |
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Grand Magnate
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Jun 22, 2021 at 03:33 PM
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P.S.: I’m not invalidating what @bpforeber is saying. I want to make it clear. I was only trying to figure how the guy was behaving since they have been friends for a long time. __________________ Social Anxiety and Depression. Cluster C traits. Trying to improve my English. My apologies for errors and mistakes in advance. Mankind is complex: Make deserts blossom and lakes die. ( GIL SCOTT-HERSON) Last edited by AzulOscuro; Jun 22, 2021 at 03:47 PM.. |
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Jun 23, 2021 at 05:57 PM
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He actually was drunk the last time I thought he was ignoring me. So, we still talk occasionally but nothing serious. He found another woman too besides his wife who would play with him. So, he seems happy. I told him no sex and so far he has taken it well. I think there are women who like married men so this man has no problems getting women. So be it! Such is life.
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Jun 24, 2021 at 04:19 PM
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Jun 25, 2021 at 03:17 AM
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If you have contact with his wife... I would let her know about his affairs. If you have any saved text of him asking you for sex.. show it to her. She has every right to know who shes married to. This man.. I mean boy... this boy is total trash.
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