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Grand Magnate
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WovenGalaxy
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leomama
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#23
He responded in a (what I perceive as) hurtful way. Pretty much said goodbye to me. It hurts, but I don't want friends who are hurtful.
Said he wished me well and stuff but it was very final sounding and I don't have the energy to correct him. |
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Grand Magnate
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I would just let it go, that sounds like too much work . |
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I'm in the same position myself, which is why I can relate. With me, my friend is the only one I have, so that makes it very hard to get rid of him. He wants to keep it going no matter what. I could get rid of him very easily if there were other people to be friends with. I've had friends in the past but never someone like him who criticizes so much. Maybe some of your friends might tell you that you should hang on and that no one's perfect. At least that's what I've been advised by my sister about my friend. It's easy to make suggestions at something like that than to go through it themselves. I think that you will feel much better in the future. |
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I’m a huge proponent of phone conversations for serious conversations. However if you feel like you will be hurt more or not heard a text is OK as well. Remember you owe it to yourself to have friends that reciprocate your feelings. Technically you don’t owe him anything. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk __________________ "I carried a watermelon?" President of the no F's given society. |
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I’m not trying to tell you what to do or how to think, but I do feel like you are second-guessing your initial reactions. It’s good to take personal inventory when we think maybe we were wrong or too emotional but I don’t think being emotional is any reason not to really feel the things that you feel. If he said hurtful things the intentions just don’t matter. I’m emotional. I cry if I’m happy or sad depressed anything I cry so easily. It’s frustrating because sometimes people don’t take me seriously. But when I am hurt and I feel things they are legitimate and need to be validated. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk __________________ "I carried a watermelon?" President of the no F's given society. |
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It’s very hard to set boundaries and be direct especially with friendships. I know sobriety helped me learn how to do this. I’m not saying you have to have an addiction to learn this either LOL. But in the very beginning I used to lean on other women friends to support me for important conversations like this. In fact I was told a text is fine if a conversation will make you choke. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk __________________ "I carried a watermelon?" President of the no F's given society. |
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#30
Thank you for giving my thread some time and thought sarahsweets.
I'm going to have this thread closed. I feel I've come to a resolution / conclusion. Yes I know some of these issues I brought up are things I will want to continue to work on. |
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#31
This thread is being closed at the OP's request.
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