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Default Sep 06, 2021 at 12:31 PM
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What is real love? If a person is for example A-sexual or has a low sex-drive, an online relationship can be all they need from a relationship right? Many relationships go platonic after some years ad they don't even speak to eachother anymore anyways...
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Default Sep 07, 2021 at 02:31 PM
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@RossAdams and all:

That's a good point. Lots of IRL relationships go sour and then the break-up is shattering where in cyber-space it's just a few clicks to block the person and it's over, no muss, no fuss.

You never have the business-relationship-aspect of being house and car owners together or parents together to dissolve and as a divorced person myself let me tell you that part of it (the business-relationship, child-free) can get very messy and adversarial and absurdly painful.

I'm 55 and very conflicted about sex since my ex-husband was so demanding for so many years and i felt obligated by my wedding vows to have sex with him against my preference. I don't know if i could ever have sex again, at least not healthy sex and no man wants to f_@k any woman 50+ so it seems i am in agreement with the world.

I treasure the recent online relationship i had with a man i met here tho. For the four weeks it lasted he was comforting and flattering and interesting and attentive and compassionate and funny and i was on-top-of-the-world. It just got too intense too fast and we burnt out.

I miss him.
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Default Sep 07, 2021 at 03:53 PM
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Go find him again.

And it's not impossible to keep something intense even if you go fast.
Change things up, spice them up.

Idk. But I'm no one to take relationship advice from.
I'm conflicted.
Seriously conflicted.
I can't eat or sleep.
Go find him.

I'm conflicted.
Seriously.
My situation is so complicated.
Right now I can't even eat or sleep.

I need advice but someone needs to know the whole situation.
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Default Sep 07, 2021 at 09:38 PM
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I think all of you overreacted.

I'm all good.

Satisfied. Sensually.
Contemplating My Marraige rituals.

Building a hurricane-proof house, writing poetry, playing guitar, singing, dancing
Feeling loved and making others feel loved .

But I worry about y'all.
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Default Sep 07, 2021 at 10:06 PM
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You needn’t worry about anyone but yourself.
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Default Sep 07, 2021 at 10:50 PM
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Personally, I think love can be expressed and reciprocated in emotional and sexual ways, via the internet, and a very meaningful relationship can form. Of course it can. It's obviously not the 'mainstream' idea of what a romantic relationship ought to be, but nevertheless, love is love. The connection is there; the relationship is there.

Also, I read a lot of internet users saying that their online friends and online support networks are very very dear to them. They love them. So why is that real love but yours is not?

So, anyway, I agree with you @Labhradha22.🙏

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Default Sep 08, 2021 at 12:03 AM
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I neednt worry about anyone but myself?
That is horrible selfish advice
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Default Sep 08, 2021 at 12:06 AM
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Thanks mote.of.soul.

You seem cool

But someone literally just said " you needn't worry about anyone but yourself"
It scares me when I hear people give out such selfish advice
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Default Sep 11, 2021 at 12:16 AM
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Thanks mote.of.soul.

You seem cool

But someone literally just said " you needn't worry about anyone but yourself"
It scares me when I hear people give out such selfish advice
Is it though? When you worry about other people who aren't your concern to worry about you focus on things that you can't control. You can't control other people, what they think, what they do, etc. All you can do is worry about yourself and what you think and do, and be responsible for that. And that is what I think you should do. Don't worry what others think or feel about your relationship. If it feels right to you then that's what matters. Don't worry about what other people think or do about it. They are living their lives the best way they can, you should live yours the best way you can too. And that will be different for each of you.

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Default Sep 11, 2021 at 02:09 AM
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I’d consider what I had with my first “proper” boyfriend “real” - we only met in person once, were pretty young too, but it was the nicest romantic relationship I’ve ever had. I don’t hate men, but looking back at all the boyfriends I’ve had since, I wouldn’t bother with any of them if I had to live my life again. That’s not because I’m making comparisons and finding them wanting - even when I leave my online ex out of the equation, I realise none of them were really that nice or valued me as a person.
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Default Sep 24, 2021 at 07:55 AM
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Congratulations on your successful marriage and your anniversary! Apologies for my terrible tendency to generalize from my own experience to the world at large. It's a persistent problem i have and am working on but have yet to have much success with. Will keep at it tho and am so happy to hear that at least someone has a happy marriage and wish you continued marital success!!!

Still having trouble seeing your text as it is in dark blue. It's a strain on my eyes. Hard to see. I'd hate to miss your posts just because of the text color. What's going on? You can use a different font if you want to differentiate your posts from others, in their look. Just choose "Go Advanced" and choose a font and perhaps a size if you like. There are lots of cool fonts, i played around with Comic Sans MS for a while and also a typewriter-like font until i got too bored. If you have vision impairment that is the problem, please advise and i will cease my entreaties and just skip your posts.

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