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Default Sep 17, 2021 at 10:17 AM
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I am thinking that it might be more about them than it is about you.

Look at it this way: if another person close to them was having similar unanticipated success, what would their reaction be? If their reaction would be similar, then what is happening isn't personal to you, it is about their view of themselves.
Why the heck did it happen? I have no success yet, and even if I win, it won't hurt them. I worked for it. I told them I do. Why they keep hating? Its so irrational to me.
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Default Sep 17, 2021 at 01:46 PM
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I agree, it isn't rational. But maybe it is like at work where one person is promoted and others at that same level aren't. Now the person who was at the same level is suddenly above. Some of the not-promoted people can handle that easily and others have trouble with it.
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Default Sep 19, 2021 at 06:38 AM
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I agree, it isn't rational. But maybe it is like at work where one person is promoted and others at that same level aren't. Now the person who was at the same level is suddenly above. Some of the not-promoted people can handle that easily and others have trouble with it.
Yes, thank you.

It hit me hard, but actually I'm proud of myself. For the last three months I've been taking notes of what I do every day. I've managed to work 12.5 hours a day every day for 84 days. I slept for 8 hours because I was very tired and I didnt want to get sick from that lifestyle. The other 4 hours I spent on eating, getting dressed and getting food, cooking, etc.

They may be hating me, but even if they're right, I did everything I could to achieve what I wanted. There must be some victory in that, I believe.
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Congratulations on how much you have already accomplished! And best wishes for continued success!
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Yes, thank you.

It hit me hard, but actually I'm proud of myself...

They may be hating me, but even if they're right, I did everything I could to achieve what I wanted. There must be some victory in that, I believe.
Good for you! Congratulations for going after what you want!
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Default Sep 20, 2021 at 10:39 AM
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There are going to be people that cross your path in life that lack the ability to show you respect. It’s their character and is reflecting their lack not yours.

You realize that while gaining life experience
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Default Sep 21, 2021 at 06:22 PM
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Confidence is not “They will like me”.
Confidence is …….
“I will be fine if they don’t”.
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Confidence is not “They will like me”.
Confidence is …….
“I will be fine if they don’t”.

I'm a narc. I need validation to feel good about myself. I have no idea how to change it. I may be the champion of the world and still if you tell me I suck, I'm gonna feel bad about myself.
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