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Icedgem
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How would you approach a partner who is polar opposite when you argue?
1 partner gets upset and want to resolve and discuss there and then. Even if it takes all night. Then other shuts down, disengages and refuses to communicate until at least the morning. All ideas welcome |
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What if you alternated approaches?
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Neither approach is particularly productive or good communication. Perhaps the first thing that needs to happen is a discussion (at a time when you are NOT arguing) about how to best communicate with each other when you need to.
My gut says that a first step might be to agree to some time as a time-out when there is a disagreement that will allow the one partner to calm down and think before speaking and the other partner the time to have some space to decide how to respond. |
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Compromise.
Communicate your needs to one another and impact on you (e.g. needing quick resolution because... needing to disengage because...) and decide on something that works for you both i.e. taking a break or time-out for X amount of time, then talk. |
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