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Every time my husband gets mad. When he gets angry. He says he wants to separate and not be together. Should go paths. He says he loves me but wants to separate
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#2
He is using emotional blackmail on you. Look it up and read about it.
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That's a horrible thing for your husband to say to you! I'm so sorry you are experiencing such emotional traumas! Do you have a T to help you with this? Can you afford to separate and divorce? It sounds like a very abusive relationship.
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If he loved you, he would not treat you like that.
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#5
I had a very close friend who went through the same thing with her spouse. She decided to present her divorce plan to him and when he realized he couldn't hold her emotionally hostage with his threats he stopped. Now, keep in mind that their marriage is not healthy, but she started figuring out what she would do if divorce happened and she feels a lot more in control of her future, with or without him.
Bottom line, you can't change his behavior, but you can set up protection and plans for your reaction to it and take your future out of his control. |
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#6
This is a part of emotional abuse - to constantly threaten to want to separate and then to say what he did to you? That's abusive. I would take him up on a separation at this stage. It is not healthy.
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