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Hi guys it’s been quite a while. During the past 7.5 months that the GM transferred to another store, I was like a ticking time bomb waiting to go off at any moment. I seriously felt like I couldn’t handle ANYTHING. I desperately tried to save my sanity by texting him (GM) 3 weeks ago, “how you been?” Luckily, he replied and said good how are you. I was relieved.
However, my habit of yelling at people over every little thing has already been firmly established during those 7 months. Three weeks time period is not long enough to get rid of it. I yelled at people today and INSISTED on going home early, so they ended up saying ok go home. PLUS, people around me burst my bubble saying that the GM is just being polite and he don’t really like me like he likes everyone else. Cuz why would he like me if I always been obsessed over him? One customer was rude yesterday and today. I used web able to handle things like that but now I can’t. |
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I’m constantly paranoid and always accusing coworkers of walking all over me during the 7.5 months since my GM transferred. He showed up 3 times to borrow stuff while I was there and seemed a tad cold all 3 of those times. Was he cold or was I sensitive? And he messaged me on Instagram asking why I been viewing his stories. Among other stuff he wrote that I don’t like. All those stuff made me crazy like hell. But idk how bad I really behaved if I only averaged once every few weeks yelling and cursing at people for several months. I lost my ability to handle ANYTHING.
Yesterday Customer drove off because he asked me to repeat myself 3 times and he still couldn’t hear me. So I insisted 5 times on clocking out before they said ok go. I wasn’t able to get an answer from my coworkers that I was DEMANDING why he drove off so I was also cursing at them. I yelled all morning at them for various little things too. Btw, I checked my text record and just realized I texted that GM a week ago, not 3. Months of firmly established habits of yelling at people doesn’t just go away in a week. |
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Yelling at people is a sure way to get fired. You know that. Former manager has nothing to do with inappropriate behaviors.
I suggested to you before that you start looking for jobs that don’t require customer interaction. Both retail and food service has job positions that don’t require costumer interaction. Stock room or back room or warehouse or kitchen or storage. Not customer service. Speak to your management that you cannot handle this stress and ask to be placed in the back. Do not bring former managers up as it is irrelevant |
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Idk if I’m sensitive or not, but the last time I saw him in person, I was eagerly approaching him to talk and he simply said “have a nice day” and kept walking. I hadn’t clocked off and was still wearing a headset. I was simply going up front from the back just to talk to him and met him half way. He hasn’t got the stuff yet that he was borrowing. I hadn’t mentioned him once at work during the past few months but I yell at coworkers to release my anger. But it was just 6-8 times during the past 6 months, is it still all that bad? Is it still considered walking out if a MANAGER finally said ok go home after I insisted 5 times on clocking out. I might’ve yelled and cursed while asking to clock out. |
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Yelling and cursing even once is one too many
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Ruby, please find a job in another place - no more customer service. Your behavior is unacceptable. Your language toward coworkers is abusive. Ideally you should be on full disability and not working but if you have to work, it needs to be in a place that does not have customers and where you are not permitted to abuse your coworkers.
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I got wrote up at the end of my shift yesterday for me getting mad last Friday. Ever since that GM transferred 7.5 months ago, coworkers seemed to have taken the liberty to be rude to me. If they had a bad day, they’ll take it out on me and not anyone else. If I make a minor mistake doing my job, they say rude stuff to me.
That never happened before that GM transferred. Hell, it wasn’t until the first time he visited to borrow stuff and blew off my attempts to talk to him that other people became rude. I know I reacted badly to the GM not wanting to talk to me, especially when he blew me off during 3 separate visits. Given my ability to handle stuff like this, I really couldn’t have done any differently. I know I said ruder stuff to my coworkers than any of them said to me, but I really don’t like it when they’re rude. A handful of people are rude to me now. Isn’t it enough to deal with just one rude person? Why am I dealing with a handful of them? |
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The reason you are dealing with 'a handful' of rude people is that they are treating you the same way you are treating them. If this behaviour of yours has been going on for over half a year you can't blame them for getting sick of it and treating you the same way. |
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As I recall their rudeness did not begin until you starting acting out and misbehaving and acted childish and entitled because your GM left. I suspect they are not going to fire you but basically ignore you until you quit. They will definitely not transfer you. This started with YOUR behavior and will only improve if you straightened out. Your ability to twist facts and blame others does you no favors. I’ll join the others who urge you to quit and find a more appropriate job not in the service sector.
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Ruby, I'll give you this piece of advice. One day, you'll say the wrong thing to someone, and you're going to get physical retaliation in return, which is far different than everyone you work with tolerating and avoiding your behavior.
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I've thought the same thing.
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Today my current GM said I don’t seem to curse people out as much. I said the previous one seems to have come back around. I really literally don’t feel angry much anymore. But I’m still dealing with the consequences
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It is. I don’t usually yell at people unless something bad happened to me that made me HAVE TO take it out on others. Since my previous GM seems to have come back around, I no longer feel the need to treat others like crap.
It’s prolly very feasible that I could quit here and reapply at his store. Cuz the office made it extremely difficult to transfer crew. But I don’t because my folks strongly discourage me from taking this step. I’m just glad I don’t have to get angry anymore where I’m at |
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No. You do not have to take things out on others. You make a choice to. Only you are responsible for your actions. And, your parents are right. That is not a good plan.
I think that beyond finding a job that is not customer-facing, as others have said, you need to work on not fixating on your supervisors wherever you end up working. |
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Ruby, when you were growing up, did you throw tantrums and make everyone's life difficult so you would get your way? Because it sure seems like it. You think if you make everyone else's life hell, they'll let you do what you want.
If you try to apply at the other store, you not only will not get a job there because you stalk people, but you also may end up having legal action taken against you. That GM actually should get a restraining order against you. |
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