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Default Nov 29, 2021 at 08:25 AM
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Anyone believe some people who act like they are so mature and believe they're all of that when in fact they come off as the polar opposite? I've seen this in past and present situations and in people of all ages both at work and outside of work. There could be a fun event happening and someone will say they're not participating because they are way better than that. Or someone may say they don't like people who joke around since that is apparently super inappropriate and immature. In the meantime, they act in immature ways themselves but refuse to see it.

Usually these people will constantly complain about everything in their life while rejecting any kind of fun activities and look down at those who participate. I find this kind of behavior very aggravating since they will state they're just so mature and even professional if it's in a work environment when in fact they are the exact opposite. It's even worse when someone gets annoyed at someone else who complains a lot but then complains a lot themselves which is what one of my coworkers do.

She'll see people either being funny or complaining and will state behind their backs at how she is more mature than that yet she will go on long rants about how much she hates the job and anything else she doesn't want to do. I've known other people in life that refuse to join fun activities stating how much better they are yet will judge and put others down and complain a lot. Even though they think they're so mature and all of that, they actually appear to be the exact opposite. There are many other times where someone acts like they're way more mature than they really are.

If anything, this kind of behavior actually makes the person appear more arrogant or stuck up. It makes them look like they believe they're above others and can't allow themselves to associate with them even if it is a fun harmless event or activity. That's fine if they don't want to be a part of it, there's many events I want no part of, but they should allow others to have fun and accept them for who they are. Acting like they're so mature actually makes them look very immature and if it's in a work environment, very unprofessional as well. Anyone know people that are like this? The best that can be done is to just ignore the behavior unless you're comfortable in calling them out which can be risky especially in a work environment.
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That sort of goes with the psychological theory of "projected image." When a psychologist sees a person's projected image, he thinks the person is overcompensating to hide a defect . . . Examples: a person who acts very tough because inside they feel weak and vulnerable . . . A person who tries to make themselves beautiful because inside they feel ugly . . . A person who drives a loud or flashy vehicle to be noticed because inside they feel invisible . . . A person who brags because inside they feel empty and worthless.

I think that perhaps some people act "super mature" to compensate for feelings of being childish. And I guess it would follow that since this "super mature" image is a facade that their childishness would escape from time to time.

Don't know if this theory is correct. It is just one of many psychological theories out there to explain behavior. I suspect we all have things that get on our nerves and things about ourselves that get on other people's nerves. I know I do. It can be aggravating.
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That sort of goes with the psychological theory of "projected image." When a psychologist sees a person's projected image, he thinks the person is overcompensating to hide a defect . . . Examples: a person who acts very tough because inside they feel weak and vulnerable . . . A person who tries to make themselves beautiful because inside they feel ugly . . . A person who drives a loud or flashy vehicle to be noticed because inside they feel invisible . . . A person who brags because inside they feel empty and worthless.

I think that perhaps some people act "super mature" to compensate for feelings of being childish. And I guess it would follow that since this "super mature" image is a facade that their childishness would escape from time to time.

Don't know if this theory is correct. It is just one of many psychological theories out there to explain behavior. I suspect we all have things that get on our nerves and things about ourselves that get on other people's nerves. I know I do. It can be aggravating.
Oh that makes total sense and I actually agree with that theory. People project their own insecurities all the time and mask them by acting tough. I agree that people who act like they’re super mature are actually immature and childish. I know people that are like this and they act very immature and for those in the workplace, very unprofessional as well.
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