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My relationship is close to the end.
We've tried therapy but we just can't seem to make it work. Im not sure if it's me or him but I'm quite often looking for ways to leave, searching online how to leave (we have a mortgage and children so not straightforward). Then I calm down and decide to stay. Whenever we have a disagreement and he can't see anything from my point of view I get upset and have a knee jerk reaction to leave. I have never left, I haven't told him this or threatened to leave but it instantly comes in my head 'if this person can't give you what you need, you're better off without him'. That is my constant internal narrative. I'll search online for how to leave, any local support groups or help etc then it blows over and I'm 'ok'. I don't like living like this. It's draining for me, constantly anxious. Nervous, feeling unstable due to my reactions. I can't help it. I often feel I'm the problem. I'm the one with all the 'issues' because I bring up things I'm not happy with and it blows up. Eg, he doesn't agree that I'm not vaccinated and our oldest child isn't. I don't agree that he is but I respect his decision. He doesn't give the same grace etc. I'm just lost. How can I help MYSELF! How can I start putting myself and my feelings first. How can I stop being so irrational and 'crazy'(!?) Thanks |
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Grand Magnate
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I'm so sorry you are going through this ordeal and I hope you get some good responses here on the Forums. Sadly, I have never been very good at relationships and so I am the last person on earth to offer advice. Hopefully you will find answers that will give you some peace of mind and restore your joy of living. I feel badly that I don't know what to say to you that would be helpful, but I just have never been very good at relationships.
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Sounds like you really want out. You could be reacting out of frustration.
There’s a lot of details I don’t know about so it’s hard to comment. Its obvious though that you are unhappy and seemingly unable to communicate your feelings in an adult way that doesn’t entail “ knee jerk reactions”. You could probably use some kind of intervention. Therapy ? Solo or couples ? All I know is that in the end if you don’t take care of yourself , or find a way to , your going to be miserable. Wishing you the best….. __________________ Trying to Live in the Moment |
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