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Default Jan 19, 2022 at 04:04 AM
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Fill me in on this one - I'm trying to understand a woman's mind better and improve on misnomers from how I was raised.

My fiancé and I finished our top to bottom master bath remodel this week...well almost. It looks great and I'm exceedingly happy with how it turned out, but I'm wondering if we got taken advantage of in certain places by her contractor/project manager friend (20 years the elder).

Size: 100 sq ft
Neighborhood: 5 stars
Scope: all - plumbing, electrical, wall move, etc.

1. His maintenance gafs: four day delay due to blown water main, $400 issue with water pressure misquote, $600 issue with rework to ceiling leak, toilet area way oversized.
2. Constantly forgotting scope/design and redoing work
3. Requested skipping shower's 2nd grout color preference to meet contractor deadline
4. Walked into home unannounced - stopped that recently by 'accidently' posing half naked. Hah
5. Eta entire project: 6 weeks...actual delivery will be 4.5 months as of next week (scope unchanged and all material on site prior to contractor arrival). As an example, his crew took three weeks to demo...three weeks to install mirror (which ended up taking two molly screws 30 min's later, but was 'over my head').
6. reminded him almost daily of timeline issues...no affirmation needed here, hah

I've dealt with some awful even legal issues from prior contractors on other projects, but this seemed different. I explained he needed to do all the work, but often pitched in to finish missed tasks prior to contractors coming on site the next day (ie I'm a handyman at heart with a couple elbow grease flips under my belt) without any acknowledgement, or thanks.

He's an incredibly busy and overall kind guy, but incompetent. This guy oversells himself and my fiancé still fell for his bogus timelines without letting us hire someone for outside help (didn't want to hurt his ego/feelings since he was so experienced). I understand she protects her friends sometimes, but she never admitted to any of his project related issues and only set two hardstop deadlines when we discussed many eta's. This guy strong armed us over four months of still uncompleted work and I have zero lessons learned as a couple to show for some of the feelings I voiced over the project.

I'm so close to taking a stance for self respect on my/our role with this guy and the situation by asking for the final bill, so I can finish all the work myself and have our personal space back (also voiced as a huge issue >4 weeks ago).

Help!

I'm in great standing with this guy, but how can I continue to be graceful with remaining work (ceiling fans, barn door, water heat adjustment, etc...like 15 hours of work), but still put a nail in this coffin and make the best of the situation moving forward?

And she is very passive with the timeline saying we have another bath to use when I've vocalized getting our space back, so we can focus on:
1. her refinance I'm helpin her through
2. my real estate llc
3. Our wedding planning
4. my new job interview (so we can move near her dad to assist with poor health issues),
5. and kids that she wants yesterday

I know I'm pity partying here, but I feel what I've kindly asked for (ie support with tasks and/or slowing things down) is falling on deaf ears.

I would be greatly indebted for any help you all could give.

Oh, and a quick, but very obvious side note - never redo an entire floor of a home while working remote and living in it. No bueno on the sanity scale. Hah.

I hope you all have a great week!
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Fill me in on this one - I'm trying to understand a woman's mind better and improve on misnomers from how I was raised.

My fiancé and I finished our top to bottom master bath remodel this week...well almost. It looks great and I'm exceedingly happy with how it turned out, but I'm wondering if we got taken advantage of in certain places by her contractor/project manager friend (20 years the elder).

Size: 100 sq ft
Neighborhood: 5 stars
Scope: all - plumbing, electrical, wall move, etc.

1. His maintenance gafs: four day delay due to blown water main, $400 issue with water pressure misquote, $600 issue with rework to ceiling leak, toilet area way oversized.
2. Constantly forgotting scope/design and redoing work
3. Requested skipping shower's 2nd grout color preference to meet contractor deadline
4. Walked into home unannounced - stopped that recently by 'accidently' posing half naked. Hah
5. Eta entire project: 6 weeks...actual delivery will be 4.5 months as of next week (scope unchanged and all material on site prior to contractor arrival). As an example, his crew took three weeks to demo...three weeks to install mirror (which ended up taking two molly screws 30 min's later, but was 'over my head').
6. reminded him almost daily of timeline issues...no affirmation needed here, hah

I've dealt with some awful even legal issues from prior contractors on other projects, but this seemed different. I explained he needed to do all the work, but often pitched in to finish missed tasks prior to contractors coming on site the next day (ie I'm a handyman at heart with a couple elbow grease flips under my belt) without any acknowledgement, or thanks.

He's an incredibly busy and overall kind guy, but incompetent. This guy oversells himself and my fiancé still fell for his bogus timelines without letting us hire someone for outside help (didn't want to hurt his ego/feelings since he was so experienced). I understand she protects her friends sometimes, but she never admitted to any of his project related issues and only set two hardstop deadlines when we discussed many eta's. This guy strong armed us over four months of still uncompleted work and I have zero lessons learned as a couple to show for some of the feelings I voiced over the project.

I'm so close to taking a stance for self respect on my/our role with this guy and the situation by asking for the final bill, so I can finish all the work myself and have our personal space back (also voiced as a huge issue >4 weeks ago).

Help!

I'm in great standing with this guy, but how can I continue to be graceful with remaining work (ceiling fans, barn door, water heat adjustment, etc...like 15 hours of work), but still put a nail in this coffin and make the best of the situation moving forward?

And she is very passive with the timeline saying we have another bath to use when I've vocalized getting our space back, so we can focus on:
1. her refinance I'm helpin her through
2. my real estate llc
3. Our wedding planning
4. my new job interview (so we can move near her dad to assist with poor health issues),
5. and kids that she wants yesterday

I know I'm pity partying here, but I feel what I've kindly asked for (ie support with tasks and/or slowing things down) is falling on deaf ears.

I would be greatly indebted for any help you all could give.

Oh, and a quick, but very obvious side note - never redo an entire floor of a home while working remote and living in it. No bueno on the sanity scale. Hah.

I hope you all have a great week!
I provided a response to this previously and was thinking about it. Is there a commission for the blind or a contractor board-like enforcement option? It is very terrible the stuff you are referencing. Going in to the home without permission from the HO is no-no for sure...for example. We you in need of what remedies you could pursue?
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