26 year old going through separation/divorce

Me and soon to be ex have been together since high school. We went to college together and after we graduated, we got married back at home. After we got married, things started to go sideways but we worked on it and moved to Georgia together. Fast forward three years and he tells me he thinks we would be better as friends and that our relationship isn’t working out. I find out that he has been talking and hanging with another woman because one night he didn’t come home until almost 3 am. He says he’s been feeling like this for a while but I don’t believe him. This woman comes into the picture and now he wants a separation/divorce. He says he still cares for me but I don’t believe him. So now I’m in a different state with no family and we’re still living together, until I find somewhere to live and mentally deal with all this going on. My feelings are all over the place and I honestly don’t know what to do or how to feel.

Hello there.

I'm so sorry for the pain and anguish you may be experiencing.

It sounds like you've had trouble in your marriage since the beginning? You said right after you got married, things went sideways. I am not sure what that means exactly, but it seems like there were problems early on.

Perhaps from that perspective, this isn't as much of a surprise? Why don't you believe him when he told you he's been feeling like this for a while? Did his actions show the opposite? Granted, he definitely should have waited before getting involved with another woman and you should have separated first, out of respect for you and for the marriage. That only causes more pain for you.

Is divorce definitely on the table? If so, I would figure out the logistics of an official separation and divorce. Do you have a support network? Do you have friends and family you can lean on, even if they're out of state?

I'm very sorry for the pain and confusion you are experiencing.

Since he is the one who left you (emotionally), perhaps he should be the one to move out?

As a different option, what would you think of moving back to where you have family?