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Jul 20, 2022, 12:09 PM
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Hello, looking for some perspective. My ex gave our twins smart watches for their 10th birthday. I think it's too early, especially since she won't give the pin code to one of them. My other concern is that I know she's using the tracking function on it because she asked why one wasn't at camp (the watch was left at home). I feel this is an invasion of my privacy with the tracking, and I'm also not excited that her very emotionally needy partner will begin regular texting with the kids. (I already saw a text saying "goodnight", followed up by another asking why there was no response.) Am I being unreasonable? I have had the ability to text the kids through their ipads at the other house for a year, but rarely use it because she has pitched fits about my infringing on her time with the kids. They said it's a safety issue and means for them to communicate in an emergency, but I have a landline phone expressly for that reason which they know about and have never used in 4 years. This feels very much like a control play and boundary issue. I'll be addressing it shortly with her and wanted some validation. At minimum I should have the same control access as them. If they balk, that says volumes. Thanks folks. I appreciate your thoughts on this.
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Jul 21, 2022, 04:15 PM
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I think you’re within your right to have the kids remove the watches when they’re with you . They can have them back when they go to her house. You’re allowed to parent the way you want during your time.
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Jul 21, 2022, 06:10 PM
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Agree with molinit seems sneaky
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| Molinit, unaluna
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Jul 21, 2022, 06:30 PM
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This is sadly such a common issue in co parenting. They could have watches at moms. Remove them in your home. She can’t legally demand they use watches in your home. As long as she can reach them on your cell phone at a designated time, no need for extra devises while in your care
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| Molinit, unaluna
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Jul 21, 2022, 11:41 PM
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Thanks folks. I appreciate it and the validation to store them away. Gotta just control what I can control, and be a good role model to my kids.
Just because I'm given free tickets to the circus doesn't mean I need to go to the show. |
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