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I'm sorry if this sounds bad. I don't have bad intensions. I'm just curious of what you think.
I'm the guy (27). I meet this girl couple days ago when I was running workshops with a group of teenagers at a summer camp. She seemed very interested in me as she walked up to me several times privately and I have to say she made quite an impression on me despite her age. I'm wondering if it would be appropiate for me to talk to her outside the workshops. I'm not a teacher, the worshops were related to my profession (film and photography). I don't want to "score" her or anything like that, honest to God. I know she's young and I would be very careful while interacting with her. She's just got me curious and interested. I would like to talk to her longer, see what she's like with no real expectations or anything. Though she is attractive IMO, I admit it. What do you guys think about this situation? Last edited by bluekoi; Aug 17, 2022 at 12:32 AM.. Reason: Add trigger icon. |
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She is of legal age (make sure she is, if she is in a summer camp she might be not 18), so no harm in talking to her.
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No. You are in a POSITION of teacher, even if you arent technically a teacher. During the class you were in a position of power and responsibility.
It's a summer camp for teenagers. You have a parental responsibility. That includes not seducing a student. College professors have students over the age of 18, it is still against policy. Its the same reasoning behind drs and their patients, or church clergy and members. Its a power position and therefore unequal and creepy. |
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I would say it's inappropriate. You were in charge of these workshops, in a leadership role, even if you were not a teacher. There should be a policy against this. And 18 is still very young.
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Would it still be inappropriate once he worshops are over and I don't work with these people in any way, shape or form?
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Why not date people of your own age, or who are at least over the age of 21? Just because this 18-year old girl showed interest, it does not mean that you need to reciprocate. This is often the case between young girls and older guys. Older guys are very attractive to young girls. This girl is still a teenager - you are nearing 30 years of age. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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I'm 27, not 47 and I personallly I don't feel like 18-19yo girls are too young for me. I don't have bad intensions. I won't harm her or manipulate her and I know how young she is and that I have to be the smart one. |
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But you ALWAYS will have been. You cant change the past.
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If she is in a summer camp, does that mean she is returning to high school in the fall, not college? I dont think she was sent there by her parents with the intent of finding a husband AMONG THE STAFF. |
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By saying "I have to be the smart one" I meant I won't use my life expierence and emotional knowledge to take advantage of her.
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Jesus Christ a husband? All I'm thinking about for now is a casual coffee and talk.
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Better leave that girl alone - it is ABSOLUTELY INAPPROPRIATE and you have NOTHING in common with her.
You are in a teacher "role." Respect that. If that were my daughter and there was a 27-year-old man after her, there would be a very scared and injured 27-year-old man by the time my family and I got done with him. You, at your age, should have no interest whatsoever in a teenager, of age or not. It's disturbing. Why aren't you dealing with women your own age? |
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Molinit thanks for your input, but I have to say...
What is that? lol You know you would end up in prison, right? If the girl is 18, I'm not breaking any laws by approaching her. |
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Watch yourself, she might have a family who doesn't call the cops either. |
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LOL what is this, a mafia? I don't respond to threats kindly in real life. You may have a point about not pursuing this idea (to talk to her), but this whole hitman thing is ridiciulous. If you touched me, I would send you to jail in no time.
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