[Nervouswreck564]

It's been very frustrating with Covid that I could not do many of the things I used to do. And things are still risky when going into public places with lots of people.

Especially now here in France it's the summertime & we're in the middle of a heatwave so the air indoors is more stuffy & less ventilated.

And you can catch covid from the aircon/ventilation system!

And nobody is wearing a mask whether it's the taxi driver, the hairdresser or even the doctor! Compared to last year or the year before i.e 2020

Since they say everyone is gonna catch covid sooner or later so it's just a matter of time before I catch it

I'm lucky I haven't catched covid as I have taken risks!

It feels like my life has been on hold or a standstill since March 2020.

I don't think I'm the only one in the world where my life has been affected by covid

I think other's people's lives were on hold & on standstill (not only in the UK but in the US & other European countries)

Maybe not anymore ( as of today) but from March 2020 until the winter of 2020 or spring of 2021 as nobody were vaccinated back then so they weren't able to go to nightclubs, pubs or resturants neither due to the need to show your passe vaccinal ( covid pass), passe sanitaire or proof of vaccination ( at least here in France)

Also due to the curfews & lockdowns, that put many people's lives on hold during the last 2 years in 2020 & 2021

It's been very frustrating! Nonetheless to say I have been sexually frustrated too ( like many other I'm sure) due to the restrictions & inability to go to bars/nightclubs or social events to meet women ( not to mention it's not safe to have sex with a girl you just met if she has covid)

But I don't know how I'm gonna make up for lost time since I'm already 36

And people have been calling me names such as incel ( and clandestin in French) but they're too ****** to understand that I want to improve my appearance to make myself more attractive so I appeal to girls/women but haven't been able to because of this ******* pandemic.

The pandemic has complicated everything & made it difficult to live life normally without worrying about catching covid

Because I understand why girls don't fancy me but it's not my fault. It's covid's fault!

I know there are many beautiful girls that are out of my league. And when I see that they have tattoos, piercings, gotten hair laser removal, a nosejob, etc ( all things I've wanted to do but haven't been able to due to the pandemic) and then they look at my pics and see that I don't have any.

They probably thinking "I have tattooes why should I be attracted to him since he doesn't have any?" Which is understandable!

But if it's wasn't for covid I would have all those things i.e tattoos, piercings,etc!

It's like the lyrics to Gayle's song "ABCDEF" :

"I was into you, but I'm over it now
And I was tryin' to be nice
But nothing's getting through, so let me spell it out":

I can relate to the lyrics because I know girls were into me, probably before the pandemic ( before March 2020) but now they're not into me anymore and I don't blame them

I admit I haven't been able to self improve or make myself more attractive due to covid.

They need to understand that I really want to improve my image & become more attractive but the pandemic has prevented me from doing so.

You gotta ask yourself is it worth putting your life at risk ( ie getting a nose job during a pandemic) to make yourself more attractive so that girls will fancy you?

There's a saying "I'd rather be safe than sorry."

Personally I'd rather not take any risks. You can call me a coward but I'm sure you understand why I haven't done those things listed above that I wanted to do

Afterall the pandemic is nearly over so may as well wait that it's over then I can do whatever I like! Without worrying of catching a dangerous untreatable virus like covid & dying!

Since life would have returned to normal like pre pandemic times in 2019

Sorry for the long rant but I had to get it off my chest so people would understand

[Skeezyks]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Yes, I think most people have been affected by the pandemic in one way or another. Personally, I've probably been affected less than most since I'm old and rarely went out anyway. But I know my spouse has mentioned, on several occasions, how much she feels the pandemic has impinged upon her day-to-day life. Hopefully circumstances will continue to improve from this point on though and you will be able to get all of the personal improvements you desire. Best wishes...

[Discombobulated]

I think it depends upon your personal risk level, have you been told you’re at high risk of complications from covid?

I think most people have had covid by now, in my experience anyway, so personally I’m not as concerned as I was even a year ago. But I don’t have any serious health problems myself so not considered high risk for covid.

[Sunlight94]

I totally relate to how Covid affected your social life. If you are vaccinated you may be at lower risk at this point, but I would discuss what options you have to maintain a social life while staying safe with your doctor. I’m high risk for Covid so I understand.

[downandlonely]

I don't think it's silly to be worried about Covid. In Texas, there were never really any restrictions (only for April 2020), but I personally was being careful. I work from home and live alone so stayed very isolated until I was able to get vaccinated in March 2021.

Even after the vaccine, I wore a mask. And when I took it off (at an outdoor party), that's when I got Covid. Covid itself wasn't too bad for me, but I do have some weird after effects.

Having sex with a stranger was never really safe (even before Covid), so I understand why you don't want to do that.

But about tattoos and piercings, I don't really know any women who care about that in a partner. I prefer no tattoos, but seeing someone who has one has never been a deal breaker.

[divine1966]

Covid effected pretty much everybody but to a different degree. Not everybody could afford to quit their job and not everyone’s job is online. I was only able not to go physically to work and isolate for 3 months and even that wasn’t any kind of safety because my husband was exposed to covid every day at work. But then many people lost incomes because their businesses were closed. So all around it is all horrid.

As about meeting people I think you can start going places slowly. If you don’t feel safe, talk to your doctor if it’s safe to go do things and what precautions you should take

You do not need to have tattoos or piercings to attract women. Not every woman is interested in such things. I have a daughter, son in law and two nephews your age. No one has tattoos or piercings or had nose jobs. It doesn’t look like their friends have anything like that either. One of my nephew’s wife recently got two pretty tattoos of flowers but she doesn’t care if my nephew has any. Just a personal preference, she is an artist and designed her own. No big deal either way

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by downandlonely

I don't think it's silly to be worried about Covid. In Texas, there were never really any restrictions (only for April 2020), but I personally was being careful. I work from home and live alone so stayed very isolated until I was able to get vaccinated in March 2021.

Even after the vaccine, I wore a mask. And when I took it off (at an outdoor party), that's when I got Covid. Covid itself wasn't too bad for me, but I do have some weird after effects.

Having sex with a stranger was never really safe (even before Covid), so I understand why you don't want to do that.

But about tattoos and piercings, I don't really know any women who care about that in a partner. I prefer no tattoos, but seeing someone who has one has never been a deal breaker.

One of my colleagues held a party at her house few weeks ago. It was in their yard, outdoors. I couldn’t go because my husband and I were on vacation. But everyone at the party got covid after. They wouldn’t know who had it first. Couple of people had symptoms and tested positive so everyone tested and literally everyone was positive. I am so tired of covid

[ArtleyWilkins]

My husband got Covid in early 2021 before vaccines were widely available. He fought it in the hospital for 100 days and died, so yes, I have been affected by Covid.

I’ve had it twice. Two different variants. My vaccinations prevented me from having severe symptoms.

I am in a profession of constant exposure and no option to isolate, and I am in an area with few safety mandates, so I just try to have some common sense about it. Will I get it again? Probably. It appears the virus is very near to becoming endemic and will be one of those viruses we have to deal with.

[Have Hope]

My life has completely changed because of covid. I used to see live music 2-3 times per week before covid. During covid, all my favorite local music venues had to close and then closed permanently. Now, the only real live music venue is an hour drive away. That's too hard to drive when you work full time. Even on the weekends, sometimes it's too far for us, so we skip on the music unless there's a band we really want to see. So now my husband and I see music maybe once per month. Music used to be my therapy -- it's my refuge, and same as dancing to live music. And now that's pretty much gone. And, when we did get out for music recently at an outdoor festival, no one wore masks and I got covid for the second time! So, it's still not safe to see music, especially indoors but even outdoors.

My husband and I now stay home most weekends doing nothing - well, we run errands and shop and take short drives, but we don't do much anymore because of covid.

Covid has effected everyone and in different ways - some far more severe than others, including death and losing jobs and businesses. My father got covid and we are convinced that covid made his lung disease worse - he died only 2 months later after getting covid. It was a rapid progression.

So, no, you are not alone - it is something that everyone is dealing with, in their own way.

[Stressreleaser]

Nope, you are not alone. Everybody is trying to cover from that.