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Legendary Wise Elder
Member Since Dec 2014
Location: US
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#21
Well if a spouse leaves dirty socks next to a hamper, it is not grounds for divorce. When he calls you crazy and psychotic, it kind of falls into that category though. Just because he didn’t mean it, doesn’t make it ok. That’s how abuse is often justified “oh he didn’t mean it”
Also having a sick or elderly or dying family members or health problems or work stress isn’t an unusual extravagant circumstance, not unique. It’s part of everyone’s life. Not an excuse for acting like a jerk |
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Member Since Dec 2017
Location: Eastern, USA
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I am facing the grim reality of a very likely divorce and I am pretty depressed about it. This is not what I wanted. This is what I have been trying to avoid all this time, but he's not living up to his promises - repeatedly he is making the same mistakes and he is not growing OR learning.
I have one foot out the door right now. I know he is going to mess up again and will insult or demean me again. It's happened in every fight since we got back together - why would it change now? This is very upsetting. I should have known better than to think he could actually change. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#23
((((hugggggg)))) This is so unfair to you. You are good, and do not deserve this situation.
I have written a PM to you with some thoughts. Please forgive any little typos/strange spacing issues. It's late, and I did about 3 proof reads, only to find little things after I had already sent it to you---too late to correct anything. Sending , MG |
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Wise Elder
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And thank you for your PM - I will read and reply soon. Many hugs. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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