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#741
You have value. We as humans don't see ourselves the way others see us. Count this guy as an experiment in discovering something about yourself you didn't know. All the things you listed are things that can and will change. And how you feel about those things...this guy helped you see some things you aren't happy with. He gave you clarity about yourself.
It's OK to grieve your marriage and wish things had been different. It's a sad reality though that not all wishes come true. Eventually, it becomes a happy reality though. You find new things to enjoy, you find new people to care about who care about you. It takes time to build a happier life. There aren't short cuts, but chocolate and satisfying experiences help along the way. |
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__________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#743
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And yes, I’m grieving my marriage. It’s so sad to me. I’ve deleted all photos of him from the last five years from my phone and Facebook except for the wedding. It’s like I’ve erased the last five years and now there’s a big hole that I have to fill. It’s overwhelming. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#744
Is this guy possibly a dating potential?
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#746
__________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#747
I have to see my husband tomorrow. I’m dreading it.
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#748
Hang in there!
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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#752
Well that was rough. He started crying while inside the bank. Then he began telling me how he spends his time alone, and I said I didn’t want to hear about it. He said why are you so mean to me? I told him I assume he’s talking to women and is seeing other women. Then outside the bank he burst into a flood of tears telling me how he never cheated except for the one time two years ago. Again I told him I’m not trying to be mean but I don’t want to hear it. Again I told him he must be talking to women. He scurried to his car in tears and drove away.
Ugh. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#753
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i just realised - "manipulation" has the word "man" on the front of it |
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#754
He might not be talking to women but he’s not spending time alone. Even when he was telling you he had no where to go for thanksgiving he ended up being at friends house. So he’s lying. Plus it’s not our responsibility to make sure exes aren’t spending time alone. Not good enough reason to stay in a relationship or marriage
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#755
Yes it felt again like manipulation. And yes he is not completely alone, which I know is a lie.
I just had a very frustrating round of texts with him about the $1500 legal fee we are splitting. He was dragging his heels on wanting to pay the remainder that is his responsibility. He made things far more difficult. I am so irked by him right now. He wanted to delay his portion of payment, claiming that the lawyer will still get going on the paperwork even with just partial payment. I don’t trust that and told him we must pay the full amount NOW. He finally, after much back and forth, sent the remainder due to my account. Argh!!!! I think he wanted to try and delay filing. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes Last edited by Have Hope; Dec 13, 2022 at 04:19 PM.. |
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#756
Hang in there.
__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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#757
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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#758
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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#759
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#760
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