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Default Jan 09, 2023 at 03:40 PM
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Today has been awful. I’m really struggling. The reality of divorce is staring me in the face, I don’t feel good about myself and am feeling pretty low. I know better days are ahead, but right now it sucks.

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I think I am underestimating how much I am going through right now. I mean, work is always a challenge, I am quitting smoking and am trying to change my bad habits. and I am going through a separation and divorce. Going through a divorce by itself is said to be one of the most stressful life situations you can face. I l also lost my father last year. I could use his encouragement right about now.

And, when I lose sleep, things always seem to feel far worse. I had lost sleep Sunday night, so I felt worse on Monday.

I got plenty of sleep last night, so I feel slightly better right now. I should count my blessings. I am lucky & blessed to still have a job right now.

That being said, I feel like I am doing worse emotionally since I quit smoking. I feel like I should feel better and proud of myself, but I really don't.

I've made it one full week without smoking.

I just read about using the patch to help me quit - I read in the instruction booklet that you can feel depressed after quitting. I feel like that's what I am facing - some depression. Maybe it's withdrawals.

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I think a good path is to not judge yourself for your feelings. They are what they are.

I propose instead that you let your feelings be there, and that you continue to strive for your goals, on which you are making excellent progress!
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"One day at a time" is such a tired cliché - it took me too long to see its value. But follow it, and usually within two weeks i can see an improvement in my health, from indoor cycling and lifting dumbbells, that make it easier for me to do a lot of different things.

So like the 80's kitty poster used to say, "Hang in there!"
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Today has been awful. I’m really struggling. The reality of divorce is staring me in the face, I don’t feel good about myself and am feeling pretty low. I know better days are ahead, but right now it sucks.
I’m sorry. It normal to feel this way

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Default Jan 10, 2023 at 11:39 AM
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Thank you, everyone.

I lost my job today. I am smoking. I cannot go through a divorce and unemployment and quit smoking all at the same time. I am beside myself, though deep inside, I knew this was coming. They said my skill set doesn't match their needs. I knew when I first started working there almost a year ago that I would not be able to meet their expectations.

I cannot believe I am unemployed, yet again.

I am not informing my husband. No way.

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Thank you, everyone.

I lost my job today. I am smoking. I cannot go through a divorce and unemployment and quit smoking all at the same time. I am beside myself, though deep inside, I knew this was coming. They said my skill set doesn't match their needs. I knew when I first started working there almost a year ago that I would not be able to meet their expectations.

I cannot believe I am unemployed, yet again.

I am not informing my husband. No way.
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Thank you, everyone.

I lost my job today. I am smoking. I cannot go through a divorce and unemployment and quit smoking all at the same time. I am beside myself, though deep inside, I knew this was coming. They said my skill set doesn't match their needs. I knew when I first started working there almost a year ago that I would not be able to meet their expectations.

I cannot believe I am unemployed, yet again.

I am not informing my husband. No way.

Wow! That a lot to happen to an individual . Don’t be to hard on :yourself. I’m so sorry: that this happened to you.

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Thank you, everyone. I think I could be screwed.

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Well now I feel dumb for offering the advice I did on your thread in the work forum. This sure came out of nowhere. I'm so sorry. Make sure you apply online for unemployment this morning if you already haven't. They sure didn't give any warning.

Try to find a larger employer next time - these smaller companies make decisions like this and usually spring something like this on you suddenly. A large company/institution has a well-documented path of counseling/performance plan that keeps you from having to guess where you stand. If you're on the way out at a big place, you're usually very well aware.
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Well now I feel dumb for offering the advice I did on your thread in the work forum. This sure came out of nowhere. I'm so sorry. Make sure you apply online for unemployment this morning if you already haven't. They sure didn't give any warning.

Try to find a larger employer next time - these smaller companies make decisions like this and usually spring something like this on you suddenly. A large company/institution has a well-documented path of counseling/performance plan that keeps you from having to guess where you stand. If you're on the way out at a big place, you're usually very well aware.
Great point. I also think larger places have more wiggle room with a placement. They are more likely to move people around to find more suitable positions. Also I’d think they give more formal reviews and improvement plans. It shouldn’t be a surprise for you.

File for unemployment. Start looking for jobs. Maybe expand your searches geographically and compensation/role wise. There are jobs. Not always jobs we want but something will be there.

Stay strong
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Well now I feel dumb for offering the advice I did on your thread in the work forum. This sure came out of nowhere. I'm so sorry. Make sure you apply online for unemployment this morning if you already haven't. They sure didn't give any warning.

Try to find a larger employer next time - these smaller companies make decisions like this and usually spring something like this on you suddenly. A large company/institution has a well-documented path of counseling/performance plan that keeps you from having to guess where you stand. If you're on the way out at a big place, you're usually very well aware.
It sure did come out of nowhere. My boss in our last meeting said my job wasn't in immediate jeopardy. Whatever that means.

I am beside myself. I will be applying for unemployment today. And thanks so much for the advice!

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Great point. I also think larger places have more wiggle room with a placement. They are more likely to move people around to find more suitable positions. Also I’d think they give more formal reviews and improvement plans. It shouldn’t be a surprise for you.

File for unemployment. Start looking for jobs. Maybe expand your searches geographically and compensation/role wise. There are jobs. Not always jobs we want but something will be there.

Stay strong
I am scared about being able to find suitable employment because of all that occurred in my last job and because I had to reduce my responsibilities for mental health reasons.

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