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#881
A 27 year-old man messaged me on a 50+ dating site. He's probably looking for a sugar mamma!!!! ARGH.
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#882
Try e-harmony. No one can message you without your approval. No one can even see your profile.
On other sites if you are over 50 and aren’t looking for commitment, you’ll attract players. Probably not sugar mama seekers but guys looking for certain kind of fun. I honestly don’t know anyone over 50 who is looking for casual. Either not dating at all and focus on hobbies, families and friends or having more serious thing in mind. If someone decent uses dating site at our age it’s for a serious thing. Not saying you won’t meet a nice guy on there but honestly it’s unlikely. |
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#884
eHarmony sucks!!! I tried it once and hated it.
The reason I chose the site I chose is because it likely won't attract the players. It's an over 50 site, so men generally seem to be looking for something more serious, aside from the 27 year old, lol. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#885
I agree that over 50 will be more serious. It’s just because you said you aren’t looking for serious, that’s why I am concerned what kind of men aren’t serious over 50. Not quality ones. But if you are looking for more serious, then you’ll have a better luck.
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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#888
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#889
I met up with my former CEO after work yesterday. I wanted to maintain a positive relationship with him for future reference purposes. We had drinks and appetizers and caught up on our lives.
Sadly, he told me and it's not the first time he's said this - that I lack confidence. After I told him that my husband had cheated on me and that I took him back after that, he reiterated that I lack confidence. He said that he thinks I'm wonderful - that I am smart, funny, fun and beautiful - those were his adjectives. And my parents have also told me I lack confidence, which is just heart wrenching for me to hear as a reflection back on how others perceive me. In fact, it brings me to tears. So I told him, well, I do have confidence in some ways and not in other ways - it's a mixed bag. He said that he sometimes can lack confidence himself, so I was wondering if he's actually projecting. I really think that I carry myself in a way that exudes confidence and that I speak in a way that says I am confident. But I don't perceive myself the way others do, so i really don't know how I come across to other people. But it made me very sad to hear this from him about myself. So I am going to work on my confidence level. I guess. I guess it needs work. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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I know, right??? I didn't piece that part of it together either. I think he's made up his mind about me and believes I lack confidence, when really, I only lack it in certain areas of my life but not others.
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#892
Wow, I am annoyed! I met someone on my dating site, we had a very nice back and forth conversation yesterday. At the end of our convo, he mentions talking on the phone and possibly meeting up. He said we would talk today. So I messaged him this morning, and he's totally ghosted me. Hours later, and no message back from him. What a jerk! I am not going into the new year feeling blown off - he is clearly not worthy!
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#894
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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#897
__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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#898
So far on this dating site: I've been approached by a 27 year-old, I was ghosted by someone I kinda liked talking to, and then last, a man that I was talking to ended up being a fraud and got banned. I may have to change dating sites. Or just get off altogether and put this aside for now.
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#899
It seems as if you are "putting the cart before the horse" In other words (and this is just a guess/perception) that you are looking for a decent man to assuage the pain of the divorce., but you need to go through the grieving process (however long it takes) before you are ready to begin another relationship.
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Also, I feel I am well healed at this stage. Yes, there's still a tiny bit of grief, but I've been grieving for 3 months already and I feel I am basically done. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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