[black-roses]

I get so sad because my sister has a relationship and she just behaves so bad and is constantly angry and like I don't see why this relationship couldn't be a positive thing. She refuses to see the other person's point of view she's overdramatizing things and now she's assaulted her partner. I am sad because I know deep down my sister isn't normally a violent person but when I see that she's repeating the patterns of our parents it's hard and emotionally draining. I cried over him to be honest I am so sad that he was injured and needed stitches on the finger so sad because I see Alana my niece as an innocent child. Who is going to be in the same mess her mum was in when she was growing up and it's sad. People can justify what they want violence in any form whether it's with a partner or with a child destroys lives. People who grow up with domestic violence go on to perpetuate or be in abusive situations. My sister is doing things that make me feel sad and I feel helpless. I don't want Alana to have a broken family like I did that's the worst pain either. I don't want to feel sorrow because I wish I had often the things that she takes for granted and I don't understand. Why some get things to throw it away and others just stare empty in their heart but always trying to make things right. I know my sister needs help I don't think she is capable of being in a relationship right now with the black and white way she sees things and her lack of rational thought and self control. I just pray for her and her partner who was hurt. She says she gets panic attacks from her environment in particular with Alana screaming or acting up but that's what children do. I don't know why my sister is acting up. All of this just makes me think about how badly I wish I could give love to someone how my heart just wants to embrace but I'm alone and I feel bad thinking that because sometimes relationships can be bad. I just feel depressed when I hear my sister or people being in bad relationships. I don't know why it makes me feel empty. I think about how I'm single how I haven't been in a relationship for nine years and I'm sad. Meanwhile my sister feels like she can't cope with anything. I just ugh

[Open Eyes]

When children grow up witnessing a dysfunctional relationship in their parents, it affects them the rest of their lives.

It sounds like you felt sad and want to be a healer and seeing dysfunction leading to hurt upsets you. Looks like your sister became more narcissistic and controlling and takes her frustrations out on others, hurting them and bringing them down.

I am sure you would like to heal her, however there are people that won’t navigate their life or relationships any other way.it IS sad.

[Embracingtruth]

Allot of times when we grow up in a world where matters are handled less ideally than they should, we invariably inherit some of those qualities because somewhere inside ourselves we have conditioned our reasoning to view those moments as "normal", because that was the only choice we had as kids. That creates allot of disinformation to our emotional network that often makes us act out in similar manners because its instilled in us during our formative years.

In terms of you worrying about what will happen with your sister, I will say to you what I say anytime I see that in my family or elsewhere. Change will happen when one or both have had enough. Whatever the misery gauge is from your vantage point, there is another gauge in that relationship that is justifying that bond between them. Until those justifications lose their hold, nothing you can say or point out will change what both of them know intimately better than what you observe.

I feel for you tremendously, but that is human nature. We can justify anything, even when we're suffering and have the means to stop it. That emotional switch is a complex and powerful force that impacts how we see everything, even when its self inflicted. I wish you the very best and hope things work out for your sister.