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Location: USA
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Nov 09, 2022 at 06:54 AM
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I might as well be talking to a wall. I've come to realize after a great amount of pain and misery that we speak two different languages. Not only that. She hears me but just doe's give a ****. Some people get set in their ways and NOTHING is going to change that. I lived my life as others determined it to be. Everybody wants a piece of you. Just take , take , and take some more until your so deflated you don't have the psychological strength to even fight back. Isolated from the world . I thought love was trying to make the other person better. I know I'm rambling and I apologize. But the main point I wanted to get across is that although we know how to speak words , they are meaningless unless the other person REALLY listens and understands what those words mean , beyond how they are defined in a dictionary.
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Nov 09, 2022 at 09:33 AM
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You cannot force someone else to care. When you've determine they don't and won't, then you make a plan for yourself based on that information to either compensate in some way for it or eliminate it from your life.
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Nov 09, 2022 at 11:23 AM
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I’m sorry moodyblue83 unfortunately one will come across people who are users and can be cold. They can pretend to care but sadly it’s part of their act to get their own needs met
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Location: New Hampshire
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Nov 28, 2022 at 09:11 AM
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Hi- I'm reading this and for a moment I actually wondered if this was posted by my husband. You've basically said everything he accused me of when I found out about his affair. Meanwhile, in my mind I was doing everything I could to make him happy. I sensed he was unhappy and just thought if I did enough it would make him happy. As I've found out, none of what I THOUGHT was loving acts were received that way by him. So- just because you think right now she doesn't give a sh-- doesn't mean it is true. Before you wind up in our situation- as painful as it might be- try calmly discussing your feelings. I really wish he would have. All the time I spent doing the wrong things makes me sick to my stomach and she may very well feel the same
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