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Default Nov 25, 2022 at 06:15 PM
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The very next time he leaves his phone out in such a way, I will ask him right then and there, why is he doing this so much.

I’m still trying to unravel why he said that. I assure you all that there hasn’t been one mention of cheating or attempts at cheating in the three years we have been together up until this point.

That’s the entire point of this post. I am asking for help in processing and building a way to help me address this situation.
One thing to be aware of - just because cheating hasn't been brought up, doesn't mean that it is not a factor or consideration. He made a very odd comment about sex with other women - he either was wishing that he could have that night, or that he's thinking about it and wants to, imho. Why else make such a comment? It's also most arrogant of him to say.

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Default Nov 28, 2022 at 06:37 AM
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@Windowlessroom14, I hope you weren't scared away. How can we be of help and support you?

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Default Dec 25, 2022 at 03:27 AM
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He’s mad you didn’t buy groceries? Is he your boss? He could buy groceries just the same. It’s not like you moped on a couch all week watching tv. You work, so either one of you or both could buy groceries.
I agree. @Windowlessroom14 I understand that what prompted you to open the thread is his comment about his self-restraint, a comment that was out of character for him, but the inequity in the relationship stood out from your subsequent post. You were doing chores, you were working, you contributed to the relationship in so many ways, and yet he got angry because on top of those other contributions you also should buy groceries in his book.
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