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Default Nov 26, 2022 at 02:46 AM
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I'm so scared that when my mum dies I'll have no one I'll just be alone in this world. I've been crying about it. I think of how my sister can get two guys and I can't even get one and I just want to know why?
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Default Nov 27, 2022 at 07:55 PM
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Are you close with your mother?
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Default Nov 27, 2022 at 08:06 PM
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The two guys your sister got are both losers and your sister makes really bad choices. So I’d not use your sister as an any kind of role model or example of anything. Getting two guys isn’t an accomplishment or achievement. It’s not like she got advanced degree.

Losing one’s mom could be very hard no matter of your age or life situations. I am sorry it saddens you. But you can’t predict the future. So it’s better to live in the present
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Are you close with your mother?
Not really, I think she just fears for me because well I don't have incentive to do anything. Sometimes, I wish I could escape so she wouldn't have to see the failure I am at times.
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I think when she dies she'll be happy she's free of me finally
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Have you tried making lists to help you stay focused on a task?
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I have tried that.
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Default Nov 28, 2022 at 11:31 AM
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Maybe if put alarms on my phone to remind me to clean my room and outside the garden which my mum always complains about honestly it's a huge garden and it makes me feel daunted just thinking about it...
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Default Nov 28, 2022 at 11:52 AM
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Somebody wrote on here once,

"Yard by yard, life is hard.
Inch by inch, life's a cinch!"

I have trouble keeping up with chores too. I felt better when i lived with my mother, even though she was mean to me and didnt want me there. I got out when i received disability, but that was after i had worked for 30 years.

While i was at my mom's house, i worked in her garden. I dont have any kind of gardening experience. Its just a matter of doing what needs to be done to make it neat. My mom used to throw out some kind of squash or melon into the garden which resulted in horrendous vines wrapping around the roots of her rose bushes, stunting them. I took it upon myself to clean up the roses roots and they revived, after a few months of my work. It made me feel good even if my mother didnt appreciate it.

Many philosophers say that the key to a happy life is to find a project for yourself. This garden could be your project. You could learn so much about life from it. It could change your life if you let it.
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Somebody wrote on here once,

"Yard by yard, life is hard.
Inch by inch, life's a cinch!"

I have trouble keeping up with chores too. I felt better when i lived with my mother, even though she was mean to me and didnt want me there. I got out when i received disability, but that was after i had worked for 30 years.

While i was at my mom's house, i worked in her garden. I dont have any kind of gardening experience. Its just a matter of doing what needs to be done to make it neat. My mom used to throw out some kind of squash or melon into the garden which resulted in horrendous vines wrapping around the roots of her rose bushes, stunting them. I took it upon myself to clean up the roses roots and they revived, after a few months of my work. It made me feel good even if my mother didnt appreciate it.

Many philosophers say that the key to a happy life is to find a project for yourself. This garden could be your project. You could learn so much about life from it. It could change your life if you let it.
Very wise. I’ve also read somewhere that another key is to look forward to something. It could be small. One one hand it’s nice to live in the present but having something to plan for (big like a trip or small like a new dish to try) is exciting and keeps one going
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