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Hi all,
I'm new here. I'm having trouble moving on after a relationship. Just as I feel I'm doing well, something happens that sets me back. I dated this guy for 9 months. I really let him in because he said all the things I guess i wanted to hear - just little things that made me think he'd be sticking around. About six months ago now he broke up with me. His mental health wasn't great and he explained it as barely existing in his own life, so it was too hard to exist in someone else's. We stayed in contact as he said he hadn't told anyone else about his mental health, only me, so i was concerned and yes, I also still wanted the contact. I know that. Fast forward two months, he said he needed sex - so of course he started dating and letting someone else 'exist in his life' - without making any changes to help his mental health. I had really been doing well but yesterday he unfriended me on fb. Not only unfriended me but blocked me. Three days before that he'd liked a post I'd been tagged in, and then gone back and liked two posts from a couple of months ago. Suddenly I've been blocked?? Why? I'm confused and it's set me back emotionally. Any advice? I know I should probably have taken him off my social media a while ago anyway but I just couldn't bring myself to do it... I know I just have to 'move on'. I guess I just needed to type this out so thanks for reading if you made it this far! Just for background, I was married for 15 years. Single for three years. This was my first relationship since the marriage. The first time I had let someone else in again. I don't know if that's why I'm finding it so hard to get over. |
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Anonymous32448, jesyka, unaluna
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Block him back and have nothing more to do with him, his loss not yours your a wonderful person
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Dude us rather insensitive. Why telling ex girlfriend that he “needs sex”. That’s totally uncalled for. I think him blocking you might be a blessing. You don’t need this guy in your life. He needs to be gone. His mental health is his concern plus who really knows what’s going on. You gave it a try but he’s not the right person for you. You sound very caring and you deserve a kind person, this guy isn’t it.
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Thank you. I don't think I can block him back because he blocked me so I couldn't find him to block him! Food for thought though, to take some ownership of the situation back. Thanks for responding.
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One person's opinion of you is not worth crap
he sounds like the biggest stinkiest smelliest turd that ever came out of anywhere I admit I have myself blocked people on social media, for my own mental health, but it doesn't sound like that's the case with him |
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Sorry to hear that. I would block him on social media as well as the phone & email too if I were you. He sounds like he’s selfish, unstable & untrustworthy. It sounds like he might be playing you.
The part about him needing sex is what a lot of guys use as an excuse to manipulate women. Don’t let him guilt trip you or pressure you for sex. Both people should want it. I think that blocking you us a childish & passive-agressive way to punish you for not having sex with him. You’re better off without someone that immature & selfish in your life. |
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