Ironic, but I guess for the best.

Well, it is official. Hubby says he knows he is being selfish, but he wants to live on his own in a motor home.
He wants to give up our relationship. Mostly because he needs to prove to himself that he can break his gambling addiction without my support and bail outs.
He also just wants to live like a hermit. So I guess it was not my imagination that all he wanted to do was be alone in the man cave.
Could it be depression? Probably. He isn't taking my suggestion to take the antidepressant his doctor gave him though.
Unfortunately, we have to stay together a couple months at least to pay off some debt so I can live on my income.
This whole thing is ironic because I know in my heart that I gave him everything. He had nothing. He benefitted in so many ways from our years together
I was trying to think of things that he had brought to my life and I could think of few and far between positive things. Nothing that was big, or not overshadowed by all the lies from his gambling.
Odd I couldn't find more because I am such a grateful person.
But I can think of at least a dozen pretty major things he does I will turn down in someone next time. Deal breakers.
I am trying to focus on that.
It still hurts.

I'm sorry you are hurting!

Hello I'm sorry that you're going through some terrible stuffs right now. I do think that your husband is suffering from depression including poor self image. You had mention about him having a gambling addition... I assume that this has caused some financial issues in the relationship, and perhaps he feels guilty?

I don't think he needs an antidepressant... people think that this is some kind of miracle cure and a quick fix for depression, but it isn't.. I know it first hand. I do think that your husband needs immediate help, thought. I suggest marriage counseling and therapy in general. I don't know the history between you and your husband on this forum. Part of the marriage vows that you both took was “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until parted by death.”

By him wanting to hide and to give up on the marriage is a sign of him being a failure as a man and the leader of his family... perhaps hes too ashamed to show you this side of him? The side of him being a failure.

My suggestion is this... if you truly do love him.. don't give up and keep fighting... if you no longer love this man... let him go his way. One day he'll eventually realize the errors of his way.