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#21
He had sent a few lengthy texts too. I had unblocked him a week or so ago to discuss signing the divorce papers. He is trying to woo me back again. I am pretty astounded that he would want anything to do with me, after kicking him out of his home twice now. He is saying things like "you looked so beautiful" and "I was full of emotion after seeing you" and "I just wanted to hold you and give you love".
It does pull at my heart strings a tiny bit, I must admit. And a part of me wishes I could ask him to move back in, only to help me pay rent and bills. Obviously, I will NOT do that, because I don't love him and I don't want him anymore. A friend even asked if he could be my roommate. NO WAY. I am only sharing my deepest thoughts right now and they are there because I feel desperate. He is not allowed back in my life though. Never again. I will find other solutions - I will get a job if it's the last thing I do. I have to get determined. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#22
I understand that feeling, every time I see the x (rarely) after 20 years I cringe.
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#23
Block him again.
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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Thanks @Buffy01 for all your support and for the validation. Much appreciated!
He called me and I stupidly picked up the phone. Again he talked at me but asked if he needs to stay away from the music scene. I told him he can do as he pleases and told him not to contact me - that I don’t want anything to do with him. Then I told him it’s always about HIM and how HE feels - not once does he show he cares about how I feel. Screw him. I will block him again. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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I’m having a bad day. A recruiter wasted my time, the aftermath of seeing my husband and I’m unemployed going through a divorce. No way around it - this sucks.
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#31
I blocked my husband on my cell phone - again. I told him I hate him, regret meeting him and regret marrying him. I also said that he failed me as a husband in so many ways, and broke too many promises. Then I blocked him. He hasn't written an email in reply. GOOD.
I really do hate him. Once again, he's full of weak, lame excuses for his bad behavior. This time it's, he read my letter but he didn't think he needed help and he didn't think he was doing anything wrong. He said he took my letter the wrong way. My letter spelled it out for him - these fights are unacceptable and cannot continue, is what I wrote. What does he do with that? He completely ignores everything I wrote and fought with me yet again several days after reading my letter. It shows zero respect for my feelings and opinions. Screw him. I am so done with listening to his bs. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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Actions speak louder than words, Have Hope
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__________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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I finally just stopped replying to him. I cannot listen to his excuses and bs reasoning and longer. And it IS all bs. He just makes up stuff to explain away his bad behaviors and poor treatment of me. Oh, I didn't realize, he says, or I couldn't receive criticism at the time, or my coping skills were lacking because of my mom's failing health. Whatever the case may be, I have zero trust that he can be the loving, supportive and faithful husband I want & need - and consistently. If his coping skills are lacking now when there's a family crisis, then he won't be able to cope in the future either. And if he cannot hear or receive my feedback, more than once now, then that's a huge problem. I have zero faith in him and zero trust at this point.
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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#37
We're officially filed for divorce with the court. A step!
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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#39
There's no reason to file a restraining order - he hasn't threatened my safety and made me afraid. In order to get a restraining order, you have to prove that your safety is in jeopardy. I don't know where or how to get free counseling.
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#40
I don't feel like I thought I would when we filed for divorce. I am depressed about it. I feel really let down by him and deeply disappointed that this is how things have turned out in my marriage. Not what I hoped for.
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