The narcissist wins today

Fuzzybear · Apr 16, 2023 at 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul

As much as I don't like to feel like victim,I can't shake off what had happened. I tend to ruminate and replay it again and again,and retraumatize myself.I need a lot of distracting activities after the fact.I am watching myself now,and want to know how long it takes to wake up with not having remembrance of the narcs game.

Anyone can fall into a trap like that, you did nothing wrong. The narcissist didn't ''win'' (they manipulated as they so often do)

Mendingmysoul · Apr 16, 2023 at 11:29 AM

Thank you Fuzzy for your validation.

Apr 16, 2023 at 02:37 PM

mending

eskielover · Apr 20, 2023 at 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul

Dear Open Eyes,thank you for your thoughtful reply.It feels like I have acquired so much theoretical knowledge,but what is the benefit of it all,if I fail to apply it in real life practically.I can't believe I played the game,the narcissist wanted me to.The narc was able to crush my boundaries, gaslighted me,and was able to position me as a pawn on his game board.I am feeling ashamed of myself.

Like my T always said....PRACTICE makes it become a natural part of life. We never START off practicing perfect even when we know how to read the notes. look at it as a "practice" opportunity, not as failing

WovenGalaxy · Apr 20, 2023 at 07:14 PM

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Originally Posted by eskielover

Like my T always said....PRACTICE makes it become a natural part of life. We never START off practicing perfect even when we know how to read the notes. look at it as a "practice" opportunity, not as failing

I know it was meant for the OP, but this post means a lot to me.

Mendingmysoul · Apr 22, 2023 at 02:34 PM

Thank you eskielover for chiming in.

eskielover · Apr 22, 2023 at 07:19 PM

I always like to share valuable information I got from my wonderful T in my process of healing & growing & learning the skills that I hadn't quite developed to get along well in tough situations in life

Blueowl · Apr 29, 2023 at 08:31 PM

I've been watching this guy on YouTube and he has helped me: NARCDAILY -You Are Not Alone - YouTube

Mendingmysoul · Apr 29, 2023 at 09:51 PM

Thank you 2ndDivorce ,I will check that channel out for sure.I have watched some others and read a lot about narcissism.

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Mendingmysoul Grand Member Member Since Aug 2019 Location: Here Posts: 907 4 807 hugs given	Apr 16, 2023 at 11:29 AM #22 Thank you Fuzzy for your validation.
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Mendingmysoul Grand Member Member Since Aug 2019 Location: Here Posts: 907 4 807 hugs given	Apr 29, 2023 at 09:51 PM #29 Thank you 2ndDivorce ,I will check that channel out for sure.I have watched some others and read a lot about narcissism.
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