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Yeah I'm just said about the people I've dated in the past
Like I haven't been treated very nice by guys have I I deserve so much more But no one has ever fought for me Like I just get overlooked because of my mental illness no one wants me I just feel like i will never be enough or wanted for who I am I just think why bother no one wants me They think I'm damaged |
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Same.......more or less. I don't have a diagnosed mental illness...but being over looked etc...I get you.
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I think I'm a good person to know, if I overthink it's because I invest too much in not causing problems for people I care about.
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Some people never do find the right one, doesnt make them a bad person, just means they have a different path
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I haven't dated in almost 15 years. At first, it was just by accident. I was in relationships almost nonstop for a decade. I felt I needed some "me" time. I did pursue one or two women, but it kind of led nowhere. Then, other things happened that made me shift my attention and made romance the last of my concerns, although I started realizing that I might have become incredibly picky on exactly who I wanted.
Now, in my mid40's, I'm starting to feel lonely. I did get closer to someone who probably lives way yoo far for it to be a good idea, though I am making plans to visit her this summer. Because, without having ever seen her, I know she's someone worthwhile, worth investing in. But...in the meantime, I kind of have been feeling miserable. She's also very busy, which I totally understand, but I still feel rather...isolated and melancholic. Sent from my moto g pure using Tapatalk |
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My personal opinion is that IF it is because of "mental illness" you are better off without them because they know THEY don't have the ability to deal with it & your life would be miserable around someone who doesn't have the ability to deal with the issues they see. Not everyone has the capability to deal with someone who has mental illness any more than not everyone has the capability of dealing with certain personality types. For me, an extrovert would be impossible to be around much because I don't want to be on the go & social all the time....too exhausting to deal with as is dealing with someone whose life is defined by the mental illness they may have. See yourself as lucky they don't stick around & make your life miserable because if they struggle to deal with mental illness or personality, the conflict it causes isn't worth "having someone". You may find someone who is ok with it. Usually that will be someone who already knows you & has observed you & knows they are ok with dating you.
I left my now ex 16 years ago & haven't dated that whole time. I have no desire to date anyone & mess up the peaceful state I have finally achieved in my life. I would ONLY date someone I knew well if I ever were to relent on the idea of dating. I struggled in my 33 year marriage & that struggle caused me serious problems & I never want to go there again __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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Some people can deal with particular health conditions (or mental health conditions), others cannot
For example: someone who is completely blind. I did date someone (before I was disagnosed) who was completely blind) but my then-undisagnosed mental health and learning disabilities, meant that sadly we could not move past everything to continue to date each other, its nothing against people with any disability, just that sometimes someone cannot cope with one disability Better to find out sooner, rather than years down the line when you are married and have 2 kids and a dog and a house and whatever else |
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I get myself in trouble with an over inflated sense of value and competency
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