need guidance

A couple of days ago, I sat down with my partner and told him that it would be nice to say I love you in person occasionally. He told me he was more physical and although difficult...I said I did okay I understand. I decided to listen to him and accepted that it was true. However, the next day I had a lot going on (a busy schedule that I had to eat on the way) ..I explained to him earlier that I wouldn't be able to meet up but could do face-time. He thought I was avoiding him so I said I wasn't, although stressed and tired...I met up with him. When he picked me up to head to the gym... I put a smile on my face and spoke about our days. While talking, I stopped and said, "Hey, where is my hug and kiss" [ sweet way]... I opened my arms and he dodged it to kiss my belly... [ i am currently 31 weeks pregnant] and I did not feel upset about him showing affection to the baby.. except I felt invalidated. I did not react at the moment but did ask where is my hug with a smile... and all he said was where is my hug?.... Instead of me being upset.... I was like okay and proceeded to hug him. He should no interest & thats when I asked if there was anything wrong... He said yes that he was thinking about last night. I was shocked because I thought we came to agreement that our discussion that previous night was solved. I did not get angry at that but was EXTREMELY upset by the way he reacted towards me when I needed was a hug ... he says I exaggerated. Am I wrong for feeling the way I did? I did not want to start an argument & now I am fearful that when I mention issues , his reaction will be to pull his affection away. I need guidance because I am completely lost & do not know if I should leave him?

A hug is physical. What is his idea of physical?

He won't say 'I love you', he won't hug you when you ask, affection is given or withheld on *his* terms. Do you not see a pattern here?

He doesn’t sound romantically interested in you. Is the child his? You need to establish co parenting plan ASAP as I don’t think there’s romantic future for you two.

It sounds like you and your partner had a conversation about your preferred ways of expressing love and affection, and you made an effort to listen and understand his perspective. However, when you were unable to meet up with him due to a busy schedule, he seemed to interpret it as avoidance and this led to tension between you two.

When you finally did see him and asked for a hug and kiss, he seemed to dodge your request and showed more affection towards your baby, leaving you feeling invalidated and upset. It's understandable that you would feel this way, especially if you were expecting physical affection from your partner.

It's important to communicate your feelings and needs in a relationship, but it can also be difficult when you fear your partner's reaction. It's worth discussing your concerns with your partner and finding ways to address them together. Leaving the relationship is a big decision, and it's important to weigh the pros and cons before taking any action. Consider seeking guidance from a trusted friend or therapist to help you navigate this situation.