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Wise Elder
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May 26, 2023 at 09:45 AM
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I spoke with another girlfriend this morning about this friend and what she had said to me. This girlfriend told me she doesn't go to this other female friend for any kind of empathy about issues she's facing in her life. She says she limits the topics she speaks of with her. I felt it was definitely off topic & directed at me. I felt she was lashing out at me for something that is missing in her own life. I don't think she is particularly happy in her life and is envious of me feeling happy and pursuing something I am passionate about. She is a data security professional - how absolutely boring.... I would die if I had to work in that field, and I know that my friend is not passionate about this industry. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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May 27, 2023 at 03:59 AM
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Just because you don't currently have a man, doesn't mean anything, Hope
 I haven't had a boyfriend since 2011 and I've put my energy into other things, doesn't mean I've failed at life You haven't failed either
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May 27, 2023 at 07:37 AM
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__________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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Wise Elder
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May 27, 2023 at 09:31 AM
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I figured out that my girlfriend has narcissism.. she has always carried an air of superiority over me. She criticizes me and makes me feel bad about myself after most conversations. I’ve known her 30 years and never saw it before until now. I’m not going to her for support or empathy anymore.. she in fact has no empathy and she’s not a good support for me. Can't believe it took me this long to realize this. I’m done. I will check in with her periodically, but no longer will share details of my struggles with her.
__________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes Last edited by Have Hope; May 27, 2023 at 09:48 AM.. |
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May 27, 2023 at 07:30 PM
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It was insensitive of her at best. I wonder if she was lashing out or just trying to think of things that were going well in her own life. It sounds best to minimize contact with her - if you can't get empathy from friends who can you go to?
Even as a teenager I disagreed so much with the idea that you need a man to have value. Statistically single women are happier. Marriage is no walk in the park - and many couples stay together for the wrong reasons. I've been in a bad relationship and I shudder to think if I didn't have the courage to leave. And my ex was not abusive, but it would still have been torment to stay with him (for one thing he did ZERO housework grrrrr). |
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May 27, 2023 at 08:46 PM
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May 27, 2023 at 08:53 PM
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It says something pretty sad about relationships between genders. |
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May 27, 2023 at 09:59 PM
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Thats my theory and im sticking to it! Obviously i spent too many tuesdays (following washday mondays) as a young girl alone in the basement ironing boxers and briefs. |
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May 28, 2023 at 04:21 AM
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Single women without kids are the happiest, I think is the statistic. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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May 28, 2023 at 05:22 PM
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I'm lonely today. It's a holiday weekend and all I know are camping at a music festival for 3 days. I was invited by a couple to go, but I decided I should not spend the money. So, I've been home alone all day, kind of very aware of the fact that I am alone.
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May 29, 2023 at 05:55 AM
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I am proud of myself. I got through my loneliness by just dealing with it and riding it out. In the past, I would have weakened and reached out to my ex. I did not reach out to my ex or to Jay. I went out by myself, met some new people and had a great time. I woke up feeling pretty good.
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May 29, 2023 at 09:11 AM
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May 29, 2023 at 10:09 AM
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__________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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May 30, 2023 at 04:14 AM
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I have only 10 weeks of unemployment left. 2.5 months. I have not had an interview in several weeks. I signed up for Upwork, a freelancing site, and haven't received any replies yet. I am submitting proposals for freelance work. I am getting a bit nervous. I wonder if they will extend my unemployment benefits and if so, for how long.
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May 30, 2023 at 02:14 PM
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How about the coaching? You're taking some kind of certification. I was so impressed with your happiness workshop and I think you could make a go of that, but I know freelance isn't easy. Try not to worry too much - just keep proof of everywhere you've applied and that should help if they need to extend your unemployment. I hope you find something good. 
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Wise Elder
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May 30, 2023 at 04:09 PM
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It will take some time to build a coaching business, and I need income while I build it. Hence the freelance work. But nothing has shown up yet.
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Jun 01, 2023 at 05:29 AM
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Ok, so I finally saw Jay again last night at the usual Wed night band/show. I finally showed my face after taking a couple weeks off. I wore a super sexy summer dress and was given a lot of compliments. One friend of mine told me, "that is the biggest F u dress" (meaning towards Jay), lol. I didn't consciously intend it, but I guess a part of me deep down was thinking "eat your heart out", at Jay, lol.
I had fun... Jay and I were able to hang out just fine as friends... it was good. I got over my initial nervousness.. and I was nervous about seeing him. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes Last edited by Have Hope; Jun 01, 2023 at 05:53 AM.. |
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Jun 01, 2023 at 07:15 AM
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__________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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Jun 01, 2023 at 12:26 PM
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__________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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Wise Elder
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Jun 01, 2023 at 12:27 PM
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One thing though. Seeing Jay made me desire him sexually all over again. Argh! He’s so cute and is such a good kisser. I miss this.. I miss hanging out with him! I wish he would come back to me, wanting more of a commitment. I’m longing to kiss him again.
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