What does this mean? I think I’m only being tolerated.

Mendingmysoul · Apr 30, 2023 at 02:54 PM

I would like to add another experience of meetup. I joined a hobby group ran by a man.It was a mixed group.I liked this group and nobody was toxic towards me.But later I was told there were these two women in this group who were fighting for the attention of the group leader who was single.He was a nice person and was being really friendly towards me.That is when I was told( warned) about the two contenders already trying to win him over.I was not there to look for a romantic interest.I continued attending because the group was nice overall. But soon enough I didn't want to caught up in triangulation because people started noticing he was being very friendly to me.I might end up getting caught in the s#@t storm of jealousy from these two women. So I stopped going.

jesyka · May 02, 2023 at 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul

I would like to add another experience of meetup. I joined a hobby group ran by a man.It was a mixed group.I liked this group and nobody was toxic towards me.But later I was told there were these two women in this group who were fighting for the attention of the group leader who was single.He was a nice person and was being really friendly towards me.That is when I was told( warned) about the two contenders already trying to win him over.I was not there to look for a romantic interest.I continued attending because the group was nice overall. But soon enough I didn't want to caught up in triangulation because people started noticing he was being very friendly to me.I might end up getting caught in the s#@t storm of jealousy from these two women. So I stopped going.

Sorry to hear that. You did the right thing. Jealous women are dangerous.

Tart Cherry Jam · May 02, 2023 at 10:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul

I would like to add another experience of meetup. I joined a hobby group ran by a man.It was a mixed group.I liked this group and nobody was toxic towards me.But later I was told there were these two women in this group who were fighting for the attention of the group leader who was single.He was a nice person and was being really friendly towards me.That is when I was told( warned) about the two contenders already trying to win him over.I was not there to look for a romantic interest.I continued attending because the group was nice overall. But soon enough I didn't want to caught up in triangulation because people started noticing he was being very friendly to me.I might end up getting caught in the s#@t storm of jealousy from these two women. So I stopped going.

@Mendingmysoul it is a shame that the jealousies of these two dueling women prevented you from having fun. It should not be like that: you should be able to enjoy yourself and eff their jealousies. I did in my twenties something similar to what you did and many decades later am regretting it.

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