My husband doesn’t seem to care about my health

Unfortunately, the reality is that if you are financially dependent, these situations can arise. Cases like this used to be much more common when women had limited chances to work. It sounds like he is taking his frustrations about his debts and other issues out on you because he knows you are stuck in the situation.

A lot of people that are disabled manage to work at least part time, including many on this forum. Have you looked into any programs that help disabled people find jobs? Maybe there are some options out there you haven't thought of.

So did you talk to vocational disability services in California? I can locate services for you in your area if you cannot find them, however hooking you up with actual job across the country would be complicated. Especially since you have unrealistic expectations of a job

When you file taxes did you see what you owe? Next time you do taxes refuse to sign it without seeing what’s on there. Why are you signing it? He needs your signature. Don’t give it to him until you know the amount.

“No stress don’t need to know much about computer and no communicating with people” type of job likely doesn’t exist. You can clean houses or babysit (that’s stressful though). It’s inside, no computers and not much stress. But you said you can’t do physical job. Personal shopper? Work for instacart or shipt?

That’s why I am saying if you have a disability (not that you think you do but have actual proof), you need to talk to vocational disability services and they will help you out. If you do not have a disability, but suspect you have one, you need evaluation by a psychiatrist (if it’s mental or cognitive disorder that you suspect) or your GP (if it’s physical) and they can refer you to whatever evaluation you need. You’ll need that for receiving disability anyways

You cannot rely on him so you need to start relying on yourself

I never signed anything for taxes. I didn’t know that.

You’re right about everything that you said. He refuses to get counseling. I gave up on it as it doesn’t work for me at all.

Yeah, we went to Spain. He doesn’t believe in health insurance or doctors. Insurance would cost about $800 a month or more for each of us.

The problem is that he thinks that doctors & health insurance is unnecessary as the body can heal itself he thinks. Ugh!

Supposedly we’ll get insurance again after he pays off the IRS which will never happen as he’s owes them a lot if money for a very long time. He refuses to tell me how much, ugh.

My husband is a weirdo obviously.

What place would want somone like me aside from a low paying minimum slave labor retail job?

They abuse employees, They never give anyone more than 20 hours a week. Most places give employees 2-10 hours a week. I got as little as 2 hours a week!

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I live in Ca. near San Jose btw.

That’s why I am saying if you have a disability (not that you think you do but have actual proof), you need to talk to vocational disability services and they will help you out. If you do not have a disability, but suspect you have one, you need evaluation by a psychiatrist (if it’s mental or cognitive disorder that you suspect) or your GP (if it’s physical) and they can refer you to whatever evaluation you need. You’ll need that for receiving disability anyways

You cannot rely on him so you need to start relying on yourself

I never signed anything for taxes. I didn’t know that.

I think if filing online there is no need to sign physically.Your name is accepted as a signature. Correct me if I am wrong.

What employer near San Jose paid you 2 hours a week? This is a tiny fraction of the local minimal wage. When was it? Do you have proof of it? You might have a legal claim against that employer. I have a lawyer in San Jose who might be able to take your claim. Please provide the name of the employer and the time when it happened and I will check whether the statute of limitations on such a claim is still running.

It is unbelievable that in San Jose you would be paid $2/hr. I was at a Silicon Valley In'N'Out burger yesterday and they are hiring at $21-25/hr.

I think she meant they’d not give you more work than just two hours. There is a huge shortage everywhere so I can’t imagine in my state that any employer would hire people to work two hours a week. Perhaps it was a long time ago.

I have worked at back breaking low paying jobs before to where I was bullied, sexually harassed & over worked. Should should I go back to working minimum paying jobs to where I get abused because half of other disabled people on here work despite being disabled?

Maybe they’re supported & not abused. Please don’t insinuate that I don’t want to work. I can’t. If I did, I’d probably just get fired after a week again.

What employer near San Jose paid you 2 hours a week? This is a tiny fraction of the local minimal wage. When was it? Do you have proof of it? You might have a legal claim against that employer. I have a lawyer in San Jose who might be able to take your claim. Please provide the name of the employer and the time when it happened and I will check whether the statute of limitations on such a claim is still running.

It is unbelievable that in San Jose you would be paid $2/hr. I was at a Silicon Valley In'N'Out burger yesterday and they are hiring at $21-25/hr.

I never said apply for the same jobs that didn't work out. I recommended seeking out vocational support to explore other options. Others said the same.

Both my husband and I must sign in order to file. It’s not legal for him file jointly without your signature. Something fishy is going on

If he does not ever go see a doctor except for stitches, and believes his both will heal itself, he is not going to believe in counseling, either.

There are tax relief companies that, for a fee, will negotiate a settlement with the IRS if you are in financial trouble and it sounds like you are. There are scammers among them, but some are legitimate: your husband would need to look at consumer reviews and check with the Better Business Bureau. But it is possible.

There is obviously a huge power imbalance in the marriage, and one symptom of it is that your husband is hiding from you how much you owe to the IRS. But you said that you saw letters that come from the IRS. Have you ever opened them or is your husband now allowing you to open your joint mail?

right. And you cannot get disability if you do not have ample medical records to prove your case. It is completely impossible. So if your husband supports your desire to get disability, he should at least pay for your doctor visits.

By the way, if you need a disability attorney (one who has had decades of experience helping people get SSDI) in San Jose, I can refer you to one.

I think if filing online there is no need to sign physically.Your name is accepted as a signature. Correct me if I am wrong.