Why would a former friend ignore me for 10 years & then lash out at me?

Unfortunately some women just dump their female friends when they find a man. That's my guess about why she let your friendship drop, then wanted to get back together once she was single.

Also I think it's completely possible some women would be jealous that your husband supports you financially, even if he's a jerk in some ways. In many jobs the work is exhausting and stressful, so it might seem nice to be "taken care of."

Right now I'm on disability leave from my job, and some people even seem jealous of that! Psychological conditions aren't "real" to some people so I guess they think I'm on a kind of vacation. Once years ago when I was on leave during the summer, my sister-in-law said "Well it must be nice to have the summer off!"

A lot of people hate their jobs so it's not surprising they would be jealous of not working. I guess I disagree with others' comments as far as jealousy - the "green demon" is common. Obviously people with rewarding careers who love their jobs wouldn't be jealous of someone not working. But other people might. Yet they would not want a disability. It makes little sense.

The story was a bit hard for me to follow, tbh... seems there was a lot of drama and back and forth between you. From what I gather, you rejected her and as a result, she lashed out at you. And then it seems to have unraveled from there into a back and forth argument? Perhaps now that she is single, she is trying to rekindle old relationships.. this does happen often when people become single again. You have a right to question her motives since she had flaked out on you in the past and didn't seem to be a reliable friend. Perhaps she took your rejection really hard and it hurt her so she reacted the way she did? I don't know about any jealousy... it's hard to tell based on this story and these details.

I had the same thing happen to me several years ago, but with an online friend. We had been in close touch for several years, writing very personal, detailed and lengthy emails to each other and supporting each other in our respective life challenges. Suddenly, she stopped replying to me, out of the blue. And then I didn't hear from her for 3 whole years. She suddenly reappeared, wanting to rekindle the friendship, but I had been so hurt by her disappearance that I rejected her and as a result, she lashed out at me very angrily in a similar way as your old friend.

I would just chalk it up to her being hurt and hurtful in reply.

Somebody wise said to me once “it’s a waste of time trying to answer the question “why people do what they do.” You may never get an answer. Much better time spent trying yo understand why WE do what we do because we are in control of our actions and can try to make changes how we do things. We can’t control other people”

We could guess and speculate why is this woman nasty to you. Is it because she was hurt, or is she jealous of you or is she just just jerk in general. Some people like lashing out and get into nasty arguments with others. Maybe she is one of them. We will never know the answer.

Btw I never said YOU are dramatic. I said it’s too much drama. I advice to not engage. If so called “friend “ from 10 years ago came back and started yelling at me, I’d disengage, end the conversation and block them. That’s what I suggested as you can’t change her. Bye Felicia. End of story