Dislike birthdays

rdgrad15 · Jun 03, 2023 at 06:08 AM

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Originally Posted by nonightowl

Well I always looked younger than my age according to what I was told. I once was thought to be about 15 when I was 21. Pissed me off.

Now looking younger is a double edged sword. I’ve been told point blank that I don’t belong somewhere.

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Yeah I look like I could be in my late 20's.

rdgrad15 · Jun 03, 2023 at 06:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Discombobulated

I feel a bit embarrassed but I kind of like a small fuss being made of me

At work we celebrate the decade ones and my last biggie I got spoiled and Happy Birthday sung to me - it was genuine though and I have lovely colleagues. If I thought it wasn’t genuine I wouldn’t like it. I have my birthday hidden on Facebook for this reason - if people are part of my life they’ll know and if they aren’t then I’d rather they weren’t prompted by Facebook.

When I was younger I hated anything that made me the focus of attention so would’ve probably felt like you. I’m a certain mature age now lol,

Yeah I hide my birthday on my Facebook for the same reason. It forces people to wish you a happy birthday. One thing I'm okay with though are combined birthday celebrations where more than one person celebrates their birthday at the same time. I like this better because not all the attention is focused on you and only you.

nonightowl · Jun 03, 2023 at 12:11 PM

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Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Yeah I hide my birthday on my Facebook for the same reason. It forces people to wish you a happy birthday. One thing I'm okay with though are combined birthday celebrations where more than one person celebrates their birthday at the same time. I like this better because not all the attention is focused on you and only you.

Yeah I don't mind combining either. I've never gone on Facebook or Twitter and never was interested in doing so.

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Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Yeah I look like I could be in my late 20's.

With the wisdom of someone decades older.

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Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Yeah I never have major plans for my birthday and I also don't go on about my plans when other people ask. I'm very calm when it's my birthday and just don't make a fuss over it. I even tell people I treat it like any other day on the calendar since that's what it is. The only other thing that annoys me at times is when someone finds out my birthday already passed and they ask me why I didn't tell them it was my birthday as if it was a bad thing that I didn't tell them.

Yeah you don't have to tell them when it's your birthday. I'd be tempted to say "I didn't think you'd care."

Because I don't have anyone anymore, I treat like any other day for that day (just another Sunday for example) except I try to pamper myself and focus on self-care. And avoid people since nobody knows or would care.

rdgrad15 · Jun 03, 2023 at 12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by nonightowl

Yeah I don't mind combining either. I've never gone on Facebook or Twitter and never was interested in doing so.

With the wisdom of someone decades older.

Yeah you don't have to tell them when it's your birthday. I'd be tempted to say "I didn't think you'd care."

Because I don't have anyone anymore, I treat like any other day for that day (just another Sunday for example) except I try to pamper myself and focus on self-care. And avoid people since nobody knows or would care.

Yeah I've been tempted to say that, the most I ever did say way I didn't think to say anything. Basically sending a subtle message that I didn't think I needed to tell them, I can actually understand why older people get uncomfortable when others ask them about their birthdays especially if it's someone younger.

nonightowl · Jun 07, 2023 at 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by rdgrad15

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I can actually understand why older people get uncomfortable when others ask them about their birthdays especially if it's someone younger.

What do you mean by “older” people?

When I was younger I couldn’t wait to be older. Now it can wait, except when it comes to qualifying for stuff.

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rdgrad15 · Jun 07, 2023 at 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by nonightowl

What do you mean by “older” people?

When I was younger I couldn’t wait to be older. Now it can wait, except when it comes to qualifying for stuff.

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Yep same here and by older, I mean like 60’s and higher. Although some people as young as their 30’s can be that way too, that’s how I am.

nonightowl · Jun 09, 2023 at 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Yep same here and by older, I mean like 60’s and higher. Although some people as young as their 30’s can be that way too, that’s how I am.

Hard to believe that I’m now considered “older” people because I don’t feel my chronological age or (I’ve been told) look my age.

But I often wonder how I got here so fast, it seems. I don’t consider myself “elderly” though.

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pliepla · Jun 10, 2023 at 04:55 AM

I kind of hate birthdays. I don't like being in the center of attention in that way (on the other hand, I have dressed rather extravaganlty for years to say something) for something that was not my achievement. I do believe there's more of us and not liking birthdays -and especially the celebrations - is perfectly normal.

I must admit that I don't hide my birthday on facebook though and I do enjoy the wishes I do recieve from a few close friends. It's all fine as long as I can skip on the cake and songs. And when I did do something for my birthday, I would take a day off and visit a museum or go mountainbiking (or both on the same day) on my own. All this just to say there's a lot of gradations of not liking your birthday ...

rdgrad15 · Jun 10, 2023 at 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by nonightowl

Hard to believe that I’m now considered “older” people because I don’t feel my chronological age or (I’ve been told) look my age.

But I often wonder how I got here so fast, it seems. I don’t consider myself “elderly” though.

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Yeah it's normal to not feel your current age and I'm the same way.

nonightowl · Jun 10, 2023 at 01:49 PM

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Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Yeah it's normal to not feel your current age and I'm the same way.

I've always wondered how common it is, no matter what age one is.

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Originally Posted by pliepla

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It's all fine as long as I can skip on the cake...

I'm always up for cake, birthday or not.

pliepla · Jun 10, 2023 at 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by nonightowl

I'm always up for cake, birthday or not.

🤣

Me too, except on my birthday...

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