People getting overly angry at you over small stuff as a sign of disrespect

Yeah same here and in terms of the work environment, it would be easy for coworkers way older than me to make me look bad. Unfortunately admin is going to believe someone way older, but honestly I do need to figure out a way to politely ask that doesn’t make them want to complain.

You are always so polite and considerate in your posts here I’m sure you can do this politely - good luck!

As an aside I’m an older worker, in my mid years and work with a young team, there is no way I would talk disrespectfully to any of them, they are my equals, there’s no excuse for a superior attitude in workplaces or anywhere for that matter.

I agree and I talk to those who are younger than me respectfully too. Yeah I hate it when people have a superior attitude.

I'd do this, but it'd only be in person because there's no way I'd be aware of it otherwise. Like if it's in a meeting for example. But if it's over the phone or online (you can't tell someone's tone on there though), I'd be oblivious.


I agree. I like how you acknowledge everyone's posts and quote them too. I feel heard on your threads.

And I'm with Discomb on this, as I'm even older than she is and I wouldn't talk down to people---younger or older than me. Because I've experienced it myself, I wouldn't do it to others. I've had people much older than me have the nerve to say stuff like "You're too young for back pain" when they don't know me at all. It's supposed to be a compliment but it isn't. It's condescending and presumptuous. So I'd never say to a younger person their back can't be bothering them. It's so invalidating and I've been on the receiving end of that crap. And grew up hearing it too.

Co-workers are your co-workers, not your subordinates unless you're a boss. And even then respect should be given. Unfortunately not all bosses are like that.

I do feel there's generation gaps, in that someone much younger can't really know what it's like to be my age....and vice versa. And this continues, generation after generation. I think each can learn from the other, but I don't get that kind of vibe out there. Younger people shouldn't assume we can't use technology, and older people shouldn't expect younger people to know how to use it. Actually I hate the words "should/shouldn't" but don't know what else to use here. Maybe I'll say it isn't right to think older people are not tech-savvy. I know enough to get by, and I've used a computer since the 80's even though they were big as refrigerators then.

I agree, coworkers should respect each other no matter how much of an age gap there is and it goes both ways too. Older people tend to see younger people as stupid and vise versa, also it doesn't help that both sides seem to forget that times change and the way things go in life change too. I've been given advice from people who are way older to do something that at one point may have been okay to do but now there would be serious consequences, in a similar way younger people forget that older people may be more knowledgeable about things than they realize. I feel like I'm in the middle, I'm not old enough to be considered elderly but I'm not so young that I can't see the perspective from both sides.

Same here, though the government calls me "elderly". I think you once said you're in your 30's. That's not even CLOSE to "elderly." Yeah I see both sides too. Not everyone feels their chronological age or look it; people have judged me for my appearance and ask what am I doing in a senior center?

I'm not too thrilled with it but there's nowhere else to go around here.

Yep I'm 33 and yeah it's common for people to judge unfortunately.

My ex liked to judge and make character assessments, or attacks based off of small things I did, or misunderstandings.

A week after I broke up with him, he started text bombing me about that one time I didn’t do his laundry for him, or complete the yard work because I didn’t live there and had to go into work. Of course he forgot about the fact I had to go to work and said I just left it because I am lazy and self centred.

He also brought up that one time he was opening up to me and I was cold to him. Nothing of the sort even really happened to my knowledge. It was something that happened a couple months ago but of course this was never really discussed while I was with him at the time.

It’s like they’re digging up anything they can to make you feel bad or sorry in a hopes they’ll feel some sort of control or power over you.

My mans could not understand I broke up with him because I considered his addiction to be out of control and toxic to my health. He got mad at me and accused me of making him uncomfortable for asking him to smoke outside; like most smokers get that’s just basic consideration to the health of others.

The accusations of “greedy and selfish” could really be applied to the lack of consideration surrounding his addiction to smoking and alcohol.

He got mad at me for not relaxing and drinking more around him.

Like if your partner breaks up with you because you refuse to acknowledge how toxic your addictions are, and in fact you try to make your partner feel uncomfortable for setting reasonable boundaries, the problem is you.

I broke up with this guy a week and half ago so it’s still fresh in my mind.

I’m sorry you went through all that and I’m glad you broke free. Some people refuse to accept they have a problem and don’t want to accept responsibility for their mistakes. They will always find fault in others and blame others for their mistakes as well. You made the right move and hopefully you find someone better and know you now have some peace in your life.