Home Menu

Menu



advertisement
Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
Jellyfish18
Member
 
Member Since May 2017
Location: Somewhere
Posts: 188
7
24 hugs
given
Default Jun 22, 2023 at 02:38 AM
  #1
Hello. This happened today, but people in general making fun of me has been a recurring theme throughout my life, and I'm a sensitive person so wonder what is wrong with me. So. I was at the bus station sat next to some 30-ish looking guy who offered to exchange money into larger coins, when he saw me fumbling with change. He seemed eager to chat and spoke at length about his life, even though he didn't care whether I offered much input or was interested. I did try though at the beginning. We had a "normal" conversation for about 15 min. He also said he received injection "therapy" today, and I presumed it was something like an AP (antipsychotic), and I was right. He also seemed a bit spaced out or not with it.
He asked how long I ever worked for, and I said barely a year (due to my own mental health issues I didn't feel like mentioning), and said it was because I quickly got bored and constantly felt something better was waiting for me, so switched jobs a lot, and that part is true.
From then on, he started smiling or chuckling weirdly, and kept asking weird questions. Like if I read books much (chuckling plentifully and even when I was silent whilst looking at me - definitely in a mocking way), if my surname is a famous singer's surname (we share the same first name) but that he "doesn't know her", if I believe that he lived by himself when he was a small child for a year, etc. Laughing all the while, directed at me.
Even when I tried to respond, he was sort of making fun of what I said. Not being too sensitive, was very uncomfortable for over 10 minutes and he kept looking at me and laughing at me.

So my question - someone with his sort of experience/problems, why would he randomly start making fun of someone? In your exp., what is "wrong"/different with someone (child or adult) who is often made fun of? Always wondered this. Or why would someone do that? This sort of upset me and it's not a nice feeling, from a stranger. Don't think his "illness" had that much effect.
Sometimes I really think that my few friends never do this or never can tell me what is wrong with me because they're too polite or tolerant.
What is your opinion?

Also, he was sober and fine-fuctioning, was definitely not having an episode during the talk, was just a little off due to recently receiving therapy.
Jellyfish18 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Discombobulated, Open Eyes

advertisement
Open Eyes
Legendary Wise Elder
 
Open Eyes's Avatar
 
Member Since Mar 2011
Location: Northeast USA
Posts: 23,173 (SuperPoster!)
13
21.4k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Jun 22, 2023 at 04:09 AM
  #2
What you experienced is an example of a very disillusioned individual using a random person as an audience. “You can’t possibly know the trouble I’ve seen”.

While it felt like a personal attack, it wasn’t about you personally but all about his own disillusionment. It can be very unsettling to experience that. It’s more about how that person is lost in his own head and not about you. You just got to listen to a conversation someone was having with themself out loud.
Open Eyes is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Thanks for this!
Discombobulated, indigo1015, Jellyfish18
Marie123
Veteran Member
 
Member Since Jan 2011
Posts: 574
13
29 hugs
given
Default Jun 22, 2023 at 05:50 AM
  #3
People who make fun of others are insecure. They do it to feel better about themselves, but they have to keep it up, because they never feel better.
Marie123 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Thanks for this!
Discombobulated, Jellyfish18, Open Eyes
Discombobulated
Grand Magnate
 
Discombobulated's Avatar
 
Member Since Oct 2019
Location: UK
Posts: 4,766 (SuperPoster!)
4
11.8k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Jun 22, 2023 at 06:29 AM
  #4
Yes this is definitely about him not you. Some people might not have tolerated him as much as you did however, that’s not a criticism of you btw, but some people might have told him to mind his own business.
Discombobulated is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Thanks for this!
eskielover, indigo1015, Jellyfish18
Molinit
Grand Member
 
Member Since Nov 2015
Location: Michigan
Posts: 854
8
89 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Jun 22, 2023 at 10:26 AM
  #5
The laughing while speaking to you sounds like he could have been having a hallucination at the same time. People who hallucinate often hear or see things that make them laugh inappropriately while they’re seemingly engaged with another conversation.

I don’t think he was laughing at you, honestly.
Molinit is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Thanks for this!
Jellyfish18
eskielover
Legendary Wise Elder
 
eskielover's Avatar
 
Member Since Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 24,820 (SuperPoster!)
19
14.7k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Jun 22, 2023 at 11:15 AM
  #6
My ex husband would laugh at things.....but he was laughing at things going on in his own mind not at things I said or he would think what he said was funny when no one else did.

When you are dealing with someone who has mental illness don't assume the issue you are dealing with is about you.....most often it is their issue

__________________


Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
eskielover is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Thanks for this!
Jellyfish18, Molinit
divine1966
Legendary Wise Elder
 
divine1966's Avatar
 
Member Since Dec 2014
Location: US
Posts: 22,517 (SuperPoster!)
9
1,280 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Jun 22, 2023 at 11:30 AM
  #7
I’d not waste time guessing why strangers do what they do. You don’t know him so he could be very unwell. I’d be concerned if a friend or family started acting strange with me. With strangers though you’ll never know and I’d not let it bother me.

You’ve no idea if he was sober or not btw
divine1966 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Tart Cherry Jam
Magnate
 
Member Since Mar 2021
Location: California
Posts: 2,685 (SuperPoster!)
3
1,205 hugs
given
Default Jun 22, 2023 at 09:08 PM
  #8
Quote:
Originally Posted by Jellyfish18 View Post
This happened today, but people in general making fun of me has been a recurring theme throughout my life, and I'm a sensitive person so wonder what is wrong with me. .
The example you quoted, at the bus station, is easy to write off as something that was wrong with the guy, not you. Please note that most people do not share with strangers at bus stations that they have just had an antipsychotic injection. So that is already off. Also, while it is not true in every instance, oftentimes people who are given injections, as opposed to prescribed antipsychotics in the form of a pill, are not medication-adherent on their own and injections are a way to assure that they actually receive the medicine. He might have been one of those folks. I agree with the posters above that the issue was his. However, it does not help you as you are reporting a recurrent issue. Can you write more about other instances when you were made fun of or at least when you thought that you were made fun of, and then people making fun of you were not so obviously out of it?
Tart Cherry Jam is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
VabGirl
Member
 
Member Since Jul 2021
Location: virginia
Posts: 269
2
32 hugs
given
Default Jun 23, 2023 at 08:15 PM
  #9
Dont let it worry you too much. In HS i got made fun of by some other girls because i didnt have the most fashionable clothes
VabGirl is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Tart Cherry Jam
Albatross2008
Grand Poohbah
 
Albatross2008's Avatar
 
Member Since Nov 2017
Location: USA
Posts: 1,668
6
352 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Jul 02, 2023 at 04:52 PM
  #10
They do that because you’re better than they are, and they know it, and it’s the only way they can convince themselves otherwise.
Albatross2008 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
eskielover
Legendary Wise Elder
 
eskielover's Avatar
 
Member Since Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 24,820 (SuperPoster!)
19
14.7k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Jul 02, 2023 at 08:31 PM
  #11
Just in general from my observations, immature people make fun of people who are different from the "norm" because they don't understand the difference. Being made fun of is NEVER comfortable but I have also noticed that when one has a lack of self-confidence it hurts even more. I saw how that struggle effected my mom throughout her life.

Then you have comedians that take that being made fun of & make it into their business & way to earn money by making their experiences into their comedy

__________________


Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
eskielover is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Reply



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Wonder if people think I'm making this up? ak9840 General Q&A 14 Nov 21, 2016 12:21 PM
Why are people making light of this Rand. Schizoid Personality Disorder 1 Jul 09, 2015 09:15 PM
Making other people uncomfortable dysphoricspirit Coping with Emotions 2 Apr 26, 2015 01:37 PM
people making me angry TheatreKid Bipolar 8 Apr 18, 2014 12:51 PM
making people up? 0171292 Other Mental Health Discussion 17 Mar 14, 2010 02:44 PM


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 04:42 AM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2024, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.