“Oh, so you’ve just casually mentioned you don’t like XYZ?”

“That’s my cue to immediately start doing XYZ, then. Even if I don’t like it either, I’ll do it just because you said you don’t like it. I might even make it a special point to XYZ every time I see you, from here on out until the end of eternity. Simply because you made the mistake of letting me know you don’t like it.”

WHY are people like that?

First off if they keep doing it they will never be around me long enough to make it to eternity. They can play their games on someone else if they enjoy doing it that much. It's called enforcing your own personal boundaries. Tolerence of crap like that is not a virtue. People keep doing things they get away with when there are no consequences to their behaviors

What if it's somebody you can't get away from? For example, you're still under age, and it's your parent or grandparent who does it?

Of course I wouldn't hang around people who would maliciously keep on XYZing forever, now that I do have the luxury of cutting off contact with them.

But it does seem that an awful lot of people want to XYZ the very minute I express that I don't like it.

To be specific, on another part of the internet I stated that I don't think it's a compliment to call a woman "young lady" if she isn't young. First of all, "young lady" is what you call a child when you're scolding her for misbehavior. ("Young lady, that's enough backtalk!") Second, if you see your 70-year-old neighbor getting her mail, and you call out, "Hello there, young lady," all that does is call attention to the fact that she *isn't* young. Because if she were, you wouldn't feel the need to reassure (delude?) her about it. For both of these reasons, I think "young lady" is actually condescending, not polite.

I deleted my own post after people started responding to it for the sole purpose of calling me "young lady."

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What if it's somebody you can't get away from? For example, you're still under age, and it's your parent or grandparent who does it?

As soon as one becomes "of age" one can distance themself from it so that is not eternity even if it feels like it now.

Lol... "young lady" I look at as like "southern" terms. It is just what some people use & doesn't carry any real meaning

This also came up in another discussion on a different part of the internet. I mentioned "they start doing XYZ just because you mentioned you don't like XYZ" as a red flag behavior.

My ex-husband found out I was afraid of snakes, so when he happened to catch one, he deliberately snuck up on me with it. Thought it would be funny to watch me freak out and scream and panic and hyperventilate. Doesn't matter if the snake was a harmless variety, that is sadistic. On another occasion, I didn't want to go swimming in the canal behind our house because I knew it to be infested with water moccasins. This was Florida. I wasn't being irrational; it actually was. Moccasins had been seen in that very body of water. His reaction when I didn't want to go swimming with him? He pushed me in. When I reacted in terror and swam for the shore as fast as I could, he got mad at me and told me I was boring and never wanted to do anything fun.

Yep, "I don't like XYZ." -- "Great, then I'll be sure and do XYZ," was everything he was all about. But you will notice, I said "ex"-husband.

He was also big on tickling me just because I didn't like to be tickled. So were a few other family members, none of whom I go anywhere near nowadays.

It sounds awful. I sm sorry you have to deal with these idiots

Oh I would’ve hated what your ex did to you with the snakes - it’s a terror of mine too. Fortunately I live in a place where snakes are a rarity but in the past people have deliberately teased me with model snakes which also scare me.

I think they thought it was funny to see me scream but I have always explained that it’s a phobia and I can’t help my reaction. Maybe it’s a power thing too idk.

Hugs.

Because some people think it’s funny to get a reaction from you. They’re stupid & immature. They enjoy having power over people. Don’t give them a reaction or give them a taste of their own medicine.

My husband used to harass me at night & in the morning by sayung, where’s the cat & touch my face. I especially hated that when sleeping. So I did the same thing to him & he called me crazy, lol! He eventually stopped doing it! I say avoid them or throw their crap back ar them, lol 😆