My wife gave me an ultimatum while I was attending grandma's funeral

Rive. · Jul 09, 2023 at 08:53 AM

Why do you need your wife's permission to buy clothes for your bio kids?? Does she ask you for permission to buy clothes for her kids?! This is very controlling.

AND your wife forbidding you having your son in YOUR own house? That is ridiculous.

Very controlling behaviour from what you write here. She needs to learn that your needs are also important (e.g. to stay over for the funeral, to have your own child in your own place... to buy your own kids clothes or whatever)

Frankly, I would tell her I am choosing my own kid over her. There is a need to set firm boundaries with her, rather than always giving in to her and/or reassuring her of your love.

Chadley10 · Jul 10, 2023 at 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Rive.

Why do you need your wife's permission to buy clothes for your bio kids?? Does she ask you for permission to buy clothes for her kids?! This is very controlling.

AND your wife forbidding you having your son in YOUR own house? That is ridiculous.

Very controlling behaviour from what you write here. She needs to learn that your needs are also important (e.g. to stay over for the funeral, to have your own child in your own place... to buy your own kids clothes or whatever)

Frankly, I would tell her I am choosing my own kid over her. There is a need to set firm boundaries with her, rather than always giving in to her and/or reassuring her of your love.

When I returned home, I did indeed have this discussion with her. I explained that she gave me an ultimatum that I could not choose her in. We then discussed how she'd acted and what I required for me to stay. She has done each thing I have requested, including seeking therapy and allowing my son back into our home. I still don't agree with what she did, but she actively working on what happened and I do appreciate that. I love her very much, I believe in vows and will do everything in my power to be here for her no matter what we go through. I just hope she sees this within me as well.

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