Confusing separation and coldness

My of wife of 10 months, 6 years together, left me. She's saying she left because because of two reasons.

1. The pressure a relationship puts on her. She says she wants to do what she wants, when she wants... And doesn't want that nagging feeling that she is expected to make time for me. Not the relationship with me personally, just in a relationship in general.

2. Because she doesn't want children in her life. She's been with me for 6 years and I had my kids since day one with her, from a previous marriage. She said "I don't want to be there for my kids" I don't get it.

Another thing to acknowledge is that she normally doesn't show much emotion.

During this speration she's shown ZERO empathy and doesn't seem effected by this at all. She's just living as if nothing happened, while my kids and I moved into my mom's spare room.

She keeps reiterating that she wants to be in my life as a friend and she is very adamant that she loves me and is still in love. Not to mention she wants to keep physical intimacy on the table.

How do I even process this?

I need some insight. Please.

@Mike330 welcome to MSF. I am sorry things are not working out with your wife.

I get the impression she wants all the benefits of marriage and none of the responsibilities. Does that sound fair to you?

I get the impression you are forced out of the house and must live in cramped quarters. Does that sound like an expression of love?

I find it difficult to see what she is offering you and mostly hear what she wants for the person she cares about the most, herself.

Just my opinion and I do not know what you should do except get a therapist. In some states, the wife can be responsible for some support, but since they are your kids, that may be a dead end avenue. @CANDC

If I may use an analogy here... Anyone who wants the new car, but doesn't want to make any of the payments is not a person that is reliable, let alone accountable. Its easy to want something and be there for the pleasure of it. But that's not a standard. And where your kids are involved, you certainly don't want someone who wants to walk in and out of your life at the expense of your kids feeling unloved and uncared for. I would cut her loose and move on to someone who is interested in commitment, not just to you but to your kids as well. This is a package deal. Not a pick what you want and then leave as you like scenario. She wants to be single. Let her be. You deserve better. There's nothing to see here. Move on to better days for the sake of your children.