How can I stop my husband from blaming me for everything?

True. In his case though, I do believe he thinks that he thinks he knows it all & is bettee than most people. His mother really coddled him & let him get away with a lot growing up including being a brat to other people & his classmates.

Probably

Thanks, will do.

My parents are dysfunctional. My dad is a narc. My mom has some paranoid disorder. My sister is a career criminal psycho who lives at home still. She banned me from the house because she’s mostly jealous of me. She attacked me once. I haven’t been there since 2016

They do everything for her including paying her bills & paying for a luxury car but they refuse to help me out with any bills as my dad said I’m married & he can only afford to take care of one daughter. B.S! He doesn’t care about me.

I dont kiss his butt like she does. They are big babies who are very entitled & selfish who expect me to be a free therapist & to drop everything for them all the time. They even made that psycho the sole executor of my dads will. Her only. My mom has no say so in anything at all.

She will probably screw me over when the time comes. .I went almost no contact with those idiot psychopaths for the last year.

They are rude & disrespectful. Unfortunately I’m obligated to see them for an hour in public for Christmas, ugh. I can’t go back there. I doubt they’d even let me go back there.

I have nowhere else to go. I can temporarily stay with a good friend, but that’s it. I have no savings either. I’m dependent on him financially.

Going back to your family of origin sounds like it would be a bad idea anyway even if they did allow it.

Have you looked into womens refuges? I know someone suggested this earlier in this thread (or maybe another one). These days many forms of abuse are recognised not just physical and it sounds like you’ve been emotionally and financially abused in your marriage and possibly coercive control too.

Sadly when we hear only one side of the story we tend to be judgmental against the person being talked about. I know I was judged by my in-laws (only family of mine that was still alive besides my daughter) as being a horrible person when I finally walked out on my husband for my own sanity & oh I was such a bad person for fighting against his financial irresponsibility all those years....seriously we need to be wise about not being judgmental. Judging me just reinforced his foolishness & that sure didn't do him any favors. Sometimes it is hard to really tell what is abuse or not & we who don't know the full picture need to be careful. My response to my now ex was abusive but so was his behavior that I was responding to

It definitely would be a bad idea. I did look into women’s shelters & they’re always full.

Sorry to hear about what you went through. I’m glad to hear that you got away from that toxic situation & are doing better now.

My husband is treating me a bit better than before, but there’s still a lot of things that he needs to work on & so do I.

True, I always say no one knows what goes on in a relationship other than two people (even then sometimes even they don’t fully realise).

Jesyka I’m sorry if I overstepped a boundary but I hope you’ll be aware of how this situation is affecting your well being.

Domestic abuse shelters will not turn you away. If they are full, they’ll locate the ones that aren’t full. If you show up or call and tell them you are abused, they won’t say “oh we are full”

Good to know. I’d probably end up in one 100 miles away though if I ever needed one, ugh.