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No I don’t expect that at all but you often describe situations where you are being confrontational with people yet you state you are shy and timid. You also engage in situations which are uncommon for shy and timid people. I am not sure why you perceive yourself as timid.
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Poohbah
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Just because I’m normally shy & timid who also happens to suffer from anxiety does not mean that I’m not capable of standing up for myself at times. Why is that so hard to understand? When people piss me off enough, I get upset. I’m not trying to be rude, I’m just answering your question honestly. I’m sick of being bullied & disrespected. |
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Also I honestly feel like I’m being judged, dismissed & not being taken seriously because I was drinking, and that I didn’t just move out if the way even when I couldn’t because I panicked, etc.
I explained all of that many times & people still didn’t seem to understand that it seems like. Also, I don’t understand why people don’t understand how a shy person can ever be confrontational. Are shy people always supposed to just be quiet at all times & never speak up at all? I honestly don’t get why people have these very bizarre perceptions of how people should & shouldn’t act. It’s like peoples heads explode when you don’t fit into these neat little boxes or something like that, lol. Being shy doesn’t mean that you’ll always be everyones doormat, lol 😆 Last edited by jesyka; Aug 25, 2023 at 12:16 AM.. |
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@jesyka, I can understand how it may feel like judgment, but I don't see judgment or dismissal occurring. I don't think people are judging, dismissing, and not taking you seriously, and not because you were drinking. And, I think everyone is taking what you say seriously. A few people are simply reflecting their observations back to you. People are trying to help so that you can avoid having situations repeat themselves that become upsetting to you. Some people have made observations of your reactions on the thread and are trying to help.
I sense or feel like the issue has been resolved though? We hashed out what happened at the one club. You made certain decisions based on that experience on how you will approach similar clubs in the future. And next time, you are going with a friend. How else can we support you in your thread? What else is needed here, or what else would you like to discuss and resolve, if anything? __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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If we were just talking irl, we wouldn’t be pointing anything out about communication difficulties with you. Because this is a mental health site, and you posted about your issues, we got into these discussions. It may feel to you like you are being judged. It’s not judgment, it’s observation from people who are focused on mental health issues trying to help themselves and each other. If we had such a difficult time communicating in-person, in a regular setting, we would just walk away and stop. I know you are here because you want to have better relationships, so that’s why we all tried to help. I agree, the thread has run its course. I feel like I got something out of it for my own self improvement and I hope you did, too. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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I only wanted to tell you that there are circumstances in each social interaction and applying a number of fixed norms won’t be suitable. __________________ Social Anxiety and Depression. Cluster C traits. Trying to improve my English. My apologies for errors and mistakes in advance. Mankind is complex: Make deserts blossom and lakes die. ( GIL SCOTT-HERSON) |
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