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I have a small group of 3 female friends who are obsessed with taking group pics everytime we go out. It’s excessive & annoying. They’re in their mid to late 50’s, but they act like teenagers with these stupid group pics.
Anyways, I’ve always hated having my pic taken. Especially now that I’m old & fat. I think that I’m ugly too. I hate the way that I look in pics. I have a fat face & a double chin, I don’t know how to pose & I always look terrible no matter what. I always look like I don’t want to be in the pic too. I tell them no repeatedly but they beg & they won’t take no for an answer. It pisses me off. Unfortunately like a dummy, I caved after they whined and begged me to death most of the time, ugh! I’m so mad that I texted these women & told them to stop or I’ll stop being friends with them finally. Only one woman said sorry. The other two ignored me. So rude. I have a bad feeling that they’ll probably harass & gang up on me again to get their stupid pictures! Why do they not respect my boundaries & feelings? What can I do to get them to stop harassing me? Also, other people have bullied & harassed me to ne in pics too. How can I get people to leave me alone? I have stopped going to places like weddings to avoid being harassed & bullied. by people like this. I have a right to say no to them. One lady actually got mad at me once & thought that just because I was dressed up that I was under some obligation to have my pic taken at her birthday party. I wasn’t even her friend. I was an aquaintence. She told a mutual friend that I was being unreasonable . & rude. The funny thing is that three other women there didn’t want their picture taken but they were left alone. I pointed that out to my friend & she said it’s because they didn’t dress up. So because I dressed up. I was under some weird obligation to have my pitcure taken, lol. One time some rude guy shoved a camera in my face.Another time a professional photographer at an event kept taking numerous pics of me after I told him to not take my pic. I told him to stop & he wouldn’t. I felt violated & sexually harassed. Another so called female professional photographer at this same social event at a different time kept following me when I was dressed up & she kept harassing me for a picture. I was livid! I had to go downstairs to get away from her. I felt like I was being stalked by these psychos! Why would a professional do that to someone? Also, my FIL followed me around everywhere with his vanera & tried to take my pic constantly when he visited us. So rude! He knew I didn’t like having my pic taken! And my BIL actually laughed at me to my face everytime he pointed the camera at me! Very rude! My husband didn’t do anything of course! This giy was in his 40’s or 50’s back then. So immature! Why are some people like that? It’s not funny! Why are some people so obsessed with pics & why can’t they take the word no for an answer? Last edited by jesyka; Aug 29, 2023 at 02:19 PM.. |
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I thought there was exact same thread before or am I wrong?
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Back at in June. It’s a subject that’s come up several times since then also.
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As about random strangers, I don’t know what to make out of it. No one follows me around and tries to take my pictures ever and I do dress up. No idea what prompts it. I don’t know if it qualifies for sexual harassment but it’s ridiculous |
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I just don’t understand why are you friends with people who do everything that you don’t like? You don’t like them and they do everything wrong. Why are they your friends. You can’t change other people. You can only change yourself. You’ve been trying to change this group in so many ways. But they don’t change. So find different friends. |
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I sent them a group text explaining how I felt about being harassed & disrespected about them not taking no for an answer again regarding pictures. Only one lady said sorry for being pushy. The ither two women ignored me. Rude! A few people have told me that these women don’t care about my feelings & that they have no respect for my boundaries. I’ve had enough. They never ask me how I’m doing & they expect me to bend over backwards to accomodate their needs all the time. It’s to much. They’re selfish people. |
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I finally did it. I told them all in a group text exactly how I feel. It felt good. I wish that I could’ve done it in person! I’ll never put up with selfish friends again!
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