I developed feelings for a married coworker who initially showed signs of attraction!

Hey guys, I'm '33M' and my coworker is '29F' and married. A couple of weeks back in the office we became really close friends. She was always coming to me to have a chat or we would play pool together at the Office break room. She added me in messenger and we texted back and forth. I shared a couple of songs with her and she loved it. I could sense that she was interested in me because we would flirt a few times.

A few days before our Company retreat she was showing me her pics from a few years back and I told her she looked hot and flirted a bit by saying that if I ask her old self out for a drink would she say yes and she said yes and also added that the current one would say yes as well. Then she started saying that she is having physical problems in her marriage basically the husband is not able to satisfy her in

bed and they are in the talks of having an open marriage. So I then got home and texted her that I would like to buy her a drink at our company retreat event and she said yes and I said it's a date then.

Then she started acting kinda distant and in the company retreat event she was very distant with me and anytime I wanted to talk to her she seemed not interested. Also there was this another guy in her close circle that she was spending a lot of time with and they also went to the same school. I also kinda got the vibe that they were sleeping together (touching each other and smiling at one another)

Anyway, long story short I am okay with her not feeling the same way that I felt about her and also her sleeping with another person. It's her life she can do whatever she wants. What I'm not okay is with this weird awkwardness that has developed. How do I navigate this? Do I avoid any type of interaction with her at work? If I do approach her at work and she ignores me do I ask her what's wrong? I'm really confused on what to do and I hate this awkwardness. Is there any way to go back to how things were before?

She’s messy. Ignore her and never, never get involved with coworkers. Never tell a coworker they’re “hot” - it’s inappropriate.

I think you dodged a bullet as it’s best not to
Get involved with a woman who is married and clearly was looking to find someone to fool around with. This could have ended up being a disaster and could have created problems with your work.

This woman has decided to cheat on her husband. Not the kind of person you want to get involved with. When someone shows you who they are BELIEVE them.

Just be you, a wiser you. You can be nice and just move forward grateful that you dodged a bullet.

Your coworker is bored with her marriage and saw flirting with you as having some entertainment value. If she's gone cold on you, consider that a blessing. Absolutely nothing good would come out of you getting into any closer relationship with this woman. A 29 year old woman who discusses her marital sex problems at work is a total loser. Keep your distance from her. Also: never share anything personal about yourself with her. She's got a big mouth.

Number one, this is why it's best to NOT get involved with anyone you work with. Number 2, she is married and is likely experimenting. I personally would not want to become entangled in someone else' marital problems. It usually doesn't end well and someone inevitably gets hurt. I know of one couple, friends of mine, who have an open relationship. All involved are happy, comfortable, safe and healthy and they talk openly about it with their respective girlfriends and boyfriends. I feel they are the exception. Feelings inevitably will develop, annd then what? Then you're in a love triangle. I would avoid this altogther. As for the awkwardness, just be friendly and professional. I would revert back to more of a professional and friend-level relationship with this woman and keep your distance romantically. That's my two cents.

She lost interest in you once you gained interest in her. She shared her personal problems with you and became standoffish. She will probably lose interest in the other guy also. Unless she herself realizes, she will continue to play with other people’s feelings. She may find many people who will genuinely care about her, but deep inside she feels unloveable.

It’s always best to stay away from cheaters. These individuals are only interested in self and have no problem using others. They can be very charming but the bottom line is it’s about servicing their own needs and not yours.