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Grand Poohbah
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This post is for people who have similar experiences and not for those just wanting to tell me what I feel is wrong or that they hadn´t felt the same way.
I see a physiotherapist at a rehabilitation facility and she´s such a person who makes me feel as she´s annoyed with me or something. At the end of today´s session at the gym she just left and I went after her, after I had picked up my backpack, and if I hadn´t said "see you on Friday" she had probably just left. She now answered to that but she doesn´t clearly say "bye, have a nice evening" or similar but just leaves. I also see her for aquatic therapy, in a group, and I often say something nice at the end of the session like "it was a nice session today, have a nice weekend" or something but she seldom says "the same to you" or similar but sometimes she just answers "yes". It´s not that she´s shy and she´s not so tired so she can´t say something nice so it makes me feel she doesn´t like me in some way. Of course I can avoid saying something to her but to just leave after the session and not say "bye" or "see you next Friday" or something feels strange and passive aggressive in some way. When I see her for follow-up meetings at her office like two times each semester she more or less just ends the meeting and stands up beside her desk to show that the meeting is over. It´s not that she says "have a nice day", "take care" or similar. As she works with people I find that strange as I have always been nice to her, I tell her I appreciate that she offers me sessions in the aquatic therapy and such. Perhaps she doesn´t like that I keep asking for more physiotherapy, that is when I´ve had my ten sessions, I ask for more simply as I need more therapy and training. But perhaps that annoys her as she thinks other patients should be prioritized even if she can´t actually just end my contact with the facility. All in all I can´t understand people like her and others who can´t say something nice when you meet and when you part for the day when you know each other even if it´s not a family member or friend. Does anyone else experience this? |
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No one whom I see on a regular basis is like that. But I had a similar experience in September while checking out after a doctor appointment. This person's disinterest in social engagement was obvious. It was as if there was a contest to see how few words were needed to schedule a follow up appointment. I was handed the appointment card without fanfare and greeted with silence when I said "Thank you" and "Have a nice day." Just nothing. Not even sullenness, really. Just nothing.
When I leave work at the end of the day, I do not say good-bye to my computer or cubicle. So I wonder if these people regard patients and clients as just another tool, piece of furniture or other inanimate object they encounter throughout the day. |
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Don’t take their rudeness personally. You don’t have a real relationship with them & that’s how they might see it. They just do what they need to do. They probably hate their jobs. They could be very introvert med or anti social.
If they are loke this with everyone, then it’s not you. Even if it is with you only, so what, you’re not thete to make friends. It hurts, but some people are just unfriendly. |
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Was thinking sometimes people with high functioning ASD may not see a purpose for communicating what may seem to them as trivial meaningless niceities that we normally see as something traditional to say when parting. High functioning are quite capable but we see some things as just quirky, non- normal behavior. This is just a thought. There may be numerous other reasons for that kind of behavior most people see as not normal.
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