Why do some people refuse to discuss anything?

jesyka · Dec 04, 2023 at 11:53 PM

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Originally Posted by BeyondtheRainbow

I have overactive bladder. When I go out I wear an incontinence pad just to be safe. It really helps me to know that I am not at risk of having an accident.

I've also been on meds for it for several years and that has really helped too.

Are pads easy to hide or not? What meds work?

BeyondtheRainbow · Dec 05, 2023 at 12:00 AM

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Originally Posted by jesyka

Are pads easy to hide or not? What meds work?

I've never had anyone notice a pad before. The ones I use are just a little thicker than a menstrual pad.

There are several meds that treat OAB. I'm on oxybutynin. I've been on one other than I can't remember.

jesyka · Dec 05, 2023 at 12:59 AM

Thanks for the info. How well does the mefs work for you? Do they work immediately or not? This is so embarrassing, but I wet my pants a few times & I wondered if people noticed a damp spot, there.. I noticed a couple of women giving me up & down looks, ugh.

Revenge Tour · Dec 06, 2023 at 07:32 AM

I'm not sure there is a "blanket" answer for this as I would say it' depends on your relationship with that person. Is it your boss? Is it a co-worker in a professional setting? Family member? Neighbor? Acquaintance? Some people you HAVE to address issues with just to get by. With some people you may want to have a civilized discussion. Some people simply aren't worth the effort.

Discombobulated · Dec 06, 2023 at 09:28 AM

I’d say it depends on the situation.

As a rule though if the person is not normally like that and it’s out of character for them it means they are possibly stressed out by a situation and they can’t deal with anymore. It’s usually best to take heed and back off and give them the space they need I find.

If they’re like that all the time or frequently though I’d say it’d be more about them than the situation.

jesyka · Dec 06, 2023 at 09:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Revenge Tour

I'm not sure there is a "blanket" answer for this as I would say it' depends on your relationship with that person. Is it your boss? Is it a co-worker in a professional setting? Family member? Neighbor? Acquaintance? Some people you HAVE to address issues with just to get by. With some people you may want to have a civilized discussion. Some people simply aren't worth the effort.

These people are family, frirnds & my husband. Usually they just don’t want to hear it which is extremely frustrating. They just don’t care & they seem to think thst they’re never part of the problem no matter how abusive & hurtful they can be.

jesyka · Dec 06, 2023 at 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Discombobulated

I’d say it depends on the situation.

As a rule though if the person is not normally like that and it’s out of character for them it means they are possibly stressed out by a situation and they can’t deal with anymore. It’s usually best to take heed and back off and give them the space they need I find.

If they’re like that all the time or frequently though I’d say it’d be more about them than the situation.

True. I wish that the people in my life would be more caring & sensitive.

jesyka · Dec 06, 2023 at 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by BeyondtheRainbow

I've never had anyone notice a pad before. The ones I use are just a little thicker than a menstrual pad.

There are several meds that treat OAB. I'm on oxybutynin. I've been on one other than I can't remember.

I’ll ask my doctor about that medication, thanks.

BeyondtheRainbow · Dec 06, 2023 at 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by jesyka

Thanks for the info. How well does the mefs work for you? Do they work immediately or not? This is so embarrassing, but I wet my pants a few times & I wondered if people noticed a damp spot, there.. I noticed a couple of women giving me up & down looks, ugh.

The meds are very effective compared to before I started them. It can be embarrassing for sure. I really recommend the pads to avoid embarrassment.

I don't remember how fast the meds work. They are side-effecty and a lot of people give up on them early on but for me it was worth the issues (I only remember sun/heat sensitivity. I'm sure there are others, those are the ones that have caused problems for me in the past). I'm hoping to try tapering down or off them as a med that was contributing to OAB for me was at toxic levels and now that those are down I want to see if things are ok without the med.

jesyka · Dec 06, 2023 at 10:49 PM

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Originally Posted by BeyondtheRainbow

The meds are very effective compared to before I started them. It can be embarrassing for sure. I really recommend the pads to avoid embarrassment.

I don't remember how fast the meds work. They are side-effecty and a lot of people give up on them early on but for me it was worth the issues (I only remember sun/heat sensitivity. I'm sure there are others, those are the ones that have caused problems for me in the past). I'm hoping to try tapering down or off them as a med that was contributing to OAB for me was at toxic levels and now that those are down I want to see if things are ok without the med.

Thanks for the info. Hopefully I can get on meds.

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jesyka Poohbah Member Since Jun 2020 Location: U.S Posts: 1,280 3 270 hugs given	Dec 05, 2023 at 12:59 AM #23 Thanks for the info. How well does the mefs work for you? Do they work immediately or not? This is so embarrassing, but I wet my pants a few times & I wondered if people noticed a damp spot, there.. I noticed a couple of women giving me up & down looks, ugh.
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