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Default Jan 21, 2024 at 02:01 PM
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I'm unfortunately.coming to the same conclusion. Starting again in my mid 30s is terrifying at the moment though.

Yeah, i wasn't overly pleased when that was said. Mates is not a great word when trying to describe what is left of a 9 year relationship!
I would say "fortunate" rather than wasting more time is a "nothing" relationship. I left my marriage after 33 wasted years & wished I had listened to myself earlier & gotten out then.

My starting over is just taking care of my life the way I want it to run & I am not wanting anyone else involved to complicate it. Doing well for 16 years & I have 10+ acres of land I own & am taking care of now. Sometimes life is better with no one else involved at a close level but I had to sort issues out that all those years caused & when I did, being in control of my own life won

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Default Jan 21, 2024 at 08:56 PM
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Starting again in my mid 30s is terrifying at the moment though.
Oh this is nothing, you are a baby. Close this chapter of your life ASAP. I agree with eskie in that it is fortunate, not unfortunate, under the circumstances.

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Default Jan 23, 2024 at 03:32 AM
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I would say "fortunate" rather than wasting more time is a "nothing" relationship. I left my marriage after 33 wasted years & wished I had listened to myself earlier & gotten out then.

My starting over is just taking care of my life the way I want it to run & I am not wanting anyone else involved to complicate it. Doing well for 16 years & I have 10+ acres of land I own & am taking care of now. Sometimes life is better with no one else involved at a close level but I had to sort issues out that all those years caused & when I did, being in control of my own life won
Hello,

Yeah you definitely have a point there. I think if we had just separated completely and not this weird situation that is going on I would feel differently. Hell,at this point a straight answer would be nice... She seems to be less deactivated now but I wonder whether that's just her moving on at this point.

We are going on holiday with friends this week so when i get back i think it's time to put stuff in place to separate. It's not fair that she is getting everything she wants (split + me still being around as a "friend") while i just get hurt everyday. Thank you for your reply!
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Default Jan 23, 2024 at 03:36 AM
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Oh this is nothing, you are a baby. Close this chapter of your life ASAP. I agree with eskie in that it is fortunate, not unfortunate, under the circumstances.
Ha thank you, i feel like an old man at the moment. Every time i move i creak😅

Yeah, i am getting to the point now where i am ready to walk. I have given myself a timeline that i will be sticking to. After that i will be cutting all contact and one of us will have to move out and seeing as she initiated all of this i think it's only fair that it's her.

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Default Jan 23, 2024 at 05:45 AM
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You financially supporting her is the reason she keeps you in the picture and isn’t in a rush. She doesn’t want to be with you in a romantic sense and has no interest in commitment yet accepts your money. Stop dragging it. Don’t go on holidays with her. End this charade
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Ha thank you, i feel like an old man at the moment. Every time i move i creak😅

Yeah, i am getting to the point now where i am ready to walk. I have given myself a timeline that i will be sticking to. After that i will be cutting all contact and one of us will have to move out and seeing as she initiated all of this i think it's only fair that it's her.

Thank you for your reply!
What is the timeline? how are you doing now?

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