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#61
needing some support today anyone there?
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#62
What’s going on?
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#63
Just feeling like there's no way out of the situation I'm in. I cant afford to live alone because all the low income apartments are not available. I keep wanting to save my marriage which isnt realistic. I want to go to sleep and not wake up
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#64
Do those low income apartments have a waiting list? Now would be a good time to focus on getting your name on those lists rather than waiting. That will give you something to focus on doing.
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#65
Low cost/subsidized apartments are hard to come by and wait lists are long. How about renting a room in someone’s house? Post it on nextdoor. We had neighbours offering people a room for just a few hundreds a month because people were facing homelessness.
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#66
Always good to get the name on the lists thougb. When renting a room, one never knows how the dynamics will go when there is another person involved but definitely a room is a good temporary solution
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#67
I agree! I just meant that in a meanwhile there might a room available somewhere and who knows, worth the try.
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#68
yes waiting list is long. i have a few more to try.
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#69
i will keep that in mind. i know its a waste of time but i keep trying to think of the right words and actions to fix our marriage. any little thing from my wife gives me hope maybe false hope. like yesterday we hung out all day watching tv because she through her back out. the kids are away so we slept in separate beds. we were both on our phones and she sent me a tik tok of of cats that was cute. i immediately felt a rush of hope.
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#70
Investing your energy into a dead marriage is a waste and you should be concentrating on finding a place to live. Get on the lists, yes, but look on Craigslist for people renting out a room.
I had a period in life where I lived in a "rooming house" and it wasn't bad. People stay out of your business, I had a lock on my door in one so I didn't have to worry about my stuff, and in the other house I didn't have a lock but the people whose house I was living in were absolutely trustworthy, as was I. You can also look for a roommate situation. |
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#71
Staying married because you can’t afford your own place is a wrong reason for staying married. Look for the room as several of us suggested.
In the future I beg you to refrain from accumulating such high number of pets, or any pets. In absence of stability and lacking family or friends, who can help in crisis, it’s not a responsible decision. |
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#72
i think you mis read we have 3 cats and i only want 1 of them even though i love all 3
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#73
Better figure out your living situation before ever getting even one of the cats. Some places don't allow pets especially if renting a room. You need to not limit your possibilities on your living situation. That is your highest priority at this point, not whether you want one of the cats
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So sorry you're feeling so down and stuck. Can you find a roommate to live with or move in with?
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#77
no i dont have a place yet. still looking. thanks for the hope. i just found out that my wife is already dating after she said she wanted to be alone for a while to work on herself. another lie. im angry at myself because i thought she would miss me and change her mind. im also angry that she couldnt even wait to get divorced.
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#78
I wonder if that’s why she wants a divorce. She already has someone lined up. Some people are despicable. So desperate that can’t even wait appropriate amount of time.
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#79
well she just started talking to this guy last Saturday. im not sure if there was someone before him or not. she doesnt know that i know about this guy. im not about to try and diagnose her but i wonder if she is bpd? i was devalued so fast and now shes already trying to line someone else up.
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