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Jan 27, 2024 at 01:28 PM
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I heard my mother tell her cousin today that my father and I are very cheap and miserly. which means I am someone who is known for not spending money, or doesn’t lend it, or has a bad rep for doing so. I laughed along when she said that, but lost it when her cousin called me cheap. So rude, I cried so much (I’m crying as I write this), I thought I’ll never go to their church again to avoid her or her labels. Betrayal, when my mom said I am also a cheapskate. What an insult. How could she think such a thing? Am I even a human being for her?
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Jan 27, 2024 at 04:19 PM
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My brother calls me cheap too. I think they are projecting while they steal the family's resources from us.
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Jan 27, 2024 at 05:12 PM
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Unaluna might be right.
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Jan 28, 2024 at 12:54 AM
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I would be proud to be called that. It means I am budgeting the money I do have very responsibly. In my case that has proved to be important. I have my farm & my truck & I live within my means. My ex on the other hand lost the house we owned to foreclosure & had no idea where the money that should have been the 18 months of house payments even went to. I will take being a cheapskate any day to being financially irresponsible. Look at it as a compliment even if it isn't the way they meant it
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