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Default Apr 07, 2024 at 08:23 PM
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In my experience, they will only get rid of a really good performer if you become "more trouble than you're worth." And yes that was very hard to hear! I blame my pdoc not warning me of prozac side-effects.

So what if you are not management material. That is usually mutually exclusive with techie. Most companies have two different tracks nowadays, so you dont HAVE to go into management to advance.
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Default Apr 07, 2024 at 09:20 PM
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I think it was hard to hear because it hit so close to home.

It was part of the, "There's something innately wrong with you" thing I've been experiencing.
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Default Apr 08, 2024 at 12:57 AM
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I was highly, highly regarded locally for my work, with an excellent reputation.

I've really grenaded my career, I think.

We cut positions. I had the highest client load and the biggest geography. I asked for support multiple times, but nothing changed. But my failures were reviewed regularly.

Then my abruptness with clients and other staff were used as a rationale to tell me I'm unpromotable. Which I then argued... And thereby proved I was unpromotable....Which I then apologized for and indicated things in my personal life that contributed to me being overwhelmed... Which further proved I was unpromotable.

Sigh.

Oh well. Still got a job.

But that's probably it. I'll not move from where I am.
I am very sorry to hear this. I have not read the entire thread, but based on this alone, it might be time to carefully and patiently look for another job where you will have many opportunities for an upward trajectory. You clearly can do your job well, so in the long term, why sell yourself short?

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Default Apr 08, 2024 at 12:50 PM
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It sounds like you are very vulnerable right now when getting critical feedback. Yes, given that you were manipulated to feel shame for your wifeís unhappiness and voids it can lead you to experience shame with any criticism not ment to be personal but constructive.

The job market has been changing a lot due to higher operating expenses and strains on profits. Itís caused cutbacks and fewer employees expected to do more than normal. Itís important to keep this in mind so you donít absorb challenges that are not your fault.

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Default Apr 12, 2024 at 12:23 PM
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Hey everybody,

Have a good weekend.

As much as stuff gets to me, I can't explain how awesome my place is these days. We live about 30 miles outside a smallish city where things become semi rural.

At night, things are silent, or I can hear the kids laughing and playing video games together and that's all.

I have a garage that isn't very big, but I can work on my own projects out there, and there is a ton of weights in one corner so we can exercise at home.

It's just so easy.

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Default Apr 12, 2024 at 12:43 PM
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I found that as long as I have a peaceful life I am immediately surrounded by as my daily retreat, it is much easier to handle the crap the world & others throw at me & the more firm I get in my own stand on life. Would have been nice to have been in a place like that when my daughter was growing up but we have worked through that too.

The peace gives time for the mind to process the crap & I find quietness gives my mind a better chance to process solutions. That outside "noise" filles up the mind & makes it harder to concentrate on solutions.

Lol....with all the stress I experienced all my life it is a wonder how I graduated school or college with a high GPA....I think back now & wonder how much better I possibly could have done IF I lived in different environments where I would not have had to fight for everything in my life.....but it is ok cause now I have a very "don't mess with me" attitude when necessary.....but I love my peaceful life now.....what a contrast.

Glad you have the home retreat you have with your kids & can relax between stresses

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I think it was hard to hear because it hit so close to home.

It was part of the, "There's something innately wrong with you" thing I've been experiencing.
You know, i was referring to what was said to me.
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Yup.

You were talking about your experiences and from that I was explaining why the feedback stung me so much.
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